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These tips will help you write your own unique and special wedding vows.
If you’re looking to bring more of you and your spouse into your wedding ceremony, you might want to consider writing your own wedding vows. While that might seem like a daunting task with all of the wedding planning you have going on, Brides of Long Island has you covered with some tips on how to write your own wedding vows.
Reflect on Your Relationship
Think back over the course of your relationship. Pick a few highlights, maybe a trip you took or even some milestones like buying a house or getting a dog. You could even mention a not-so-great moment and how you got through it together, which shows the strength of your love.
Focus on the future
If reflecting on the past is too much, focus on your future. List the things you hope to do in your marriage – start a family, travel, move, etc. – and focus on how you’ll be there by each other’s sides through it all.
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Borrow From Others
Have you been to any weddings where you thought the vows were great? Reach out and see if they have suggestions on how to put your vows together.
Seek Advice
Don’t be afraid to ask for help! Ask some friends or family members for pointers or even special moments they may have shared with you and your future spouse. When in doubt, Google some ideas. Better yet, turn to your BOLI community for suggestions!
Time It Out
Once you have something written, time it out. Remember, longer isn’t always better. You could lose your audience pretty quickly if it’s too long. So grab your timer and speak as if you were saying your vows. And don’t rush either!
Agree on Tone
Speak with your future spouse on the tone of your vows. You don’t want to write something funny and then have them speak from the heart. Set the tone together. And if one of you wants funny and the other wants heartfelt – agree to settle on something in between.
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Consider Your Audience
Of course you’ll have inside jokes, and you’ll want to speak from the heart. Just keep your audience in mind. If you have a rowdy bunch, consider mentioning some funny moments with them. If you have a more serious crowd, stick to the basics. This also ties into the tone you choose, as well as how long you want to speak.
How Emotional Will You Get?
You may have written the best, most heartfelt wedding vows. But will you be able to read them not just to your fiancé, but in front of an audience? Will you get emotional? Will you be able to get through them all? Keep this all in mind as you write your vows, and adjust as needed as you practice.
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If you and your fiancé want to write your own vows, don’t wait until the last minute. While you don’t have to write them together, take the time separately to practice – especially if you get nervous speaking in front of people. But remember, the vows should reflect you, your future spouse and the life you will build together as you start your next chapter.