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A fun way to celebrate or just another item on your wedding to-do list?
After the excitement of saying “yes,” you may find yourself wondering if an engagement party belongs on your wedding checklist. Truthfully, this is a sort of loaded question. On the one hand, it is another thing to add to your ever-growing to-do list for your wedding, but on the other hand it could be a great way to celebrate your upcoming nuptials in a relaxed, chill environment with your closest friends and family.
To answer the question of, should you throw an engagement party, consider these questions to help you decide.
When will your wedding be?
Timing is one of the most important factors to consider when deciding on an engagement party. A long engagement gives you the chance to celebrate early and build excitement for the big day. But if your wedding is less than 18 months away, you may want to skip the party and focus on sending save-the-dates instead.
Who will host the party?
Sometimes, parents or close relatives take the lead in hosting, but many couples prefer to plan the celebration themselves. Deciding who will be responsible early on helps avoid confusion and ensures everyone is on the same page. Whether you want to embrace tradition or keep full control, clarifying the host sets the tone for how the party will come together. Pro tip: This could also set the tone for your wedding planning too!
Who would you invite?
Some couples choose to invite everyone who will eventually be at the wedding, while others keep the engagement party small and intimate with just close family and friends. A smaller guest list can create a cozy atmosphere and also helps avoid any awkwardness if your wedding guest list changes before the big day. Think about whether you want this to be a preview of the wedding or a more personal gathering.
How will this fit into your overall wedding budget?
It’s important to think about how an engagement party fits into your bigger financial picture. Beyond the immediate costs like food, drinks and décor, consider whether hosting the party might take away from funds you’d rather allocate to the wedding itself. Be honest about your priorities: if splurging on wedding day or honeymoon matters more, scaling back or skipping the engagement party could be the smarter choice.
Where would you have it and what kind of vibe do you want?
This often ties directly into your budget. For a relaxed, low-key atmosphere, a house party or backyard barbecue can feel personal and fun. An intimate dinner at your favorite restaurant offers simplicity with a touch of elegance, while some couples opt for a more elaborate “mini-wedding” style event complete with décor and entertainment. Think about the vibe you want to create and choose a setting that reflects your vision for the day.
Will it overlap with other celebrations?
Between bridal showers, bachelor/bachelorette parties and the rehearsal dinner, there are already plenty of opportunities to celebrate before the wedding. Think about whether hosting another event enhances the excitement or simply adds to the calendar. If you’d rather keep things streamlined, you may decide to skip the engagement party and focus on the other milestone celebrations instead.
Do you want gifts involved?
Gift-giving at engagement parties can be a tricky subject. Some couples prefer to keep the celebration purely about the joy of the moment, with no pressure for guests to bring presents. Others see it as the perfect opportunity to start receiving items they’ll use in married life. There’s no right or wrong choice. Make sure to communicate clearly with your guests so everyone can celebrate without uncertainty.
Do you really want one?
After weighing all the factors, the ultimate decision of whether you should throw an engagement party comes down to whether you truly want one. If you love hosting and are excited to celebrate this next chapter with your partner, then go ahead and start planning! But if the idea of being the center of attention at yet another event or simply the thought of organizing one more party feels overwhelming, it’s perfectly fine to skip it and focus your energy on planning what will be one of the best days of your life.
At the end of the day, there’s no right or wrong answer. What matters most is choosing the kind of celebration that feels true to you and your love story.