We all make New Year’s resolutions, why not make them for your wedding this year?
A brand new year is right around the corner. And while most people are thinking of some New Year’s resolutions for themselves, why not make them for your wedding this year? Even if you’re not getting married in the upcoming year, consider these nine New Year’s resolutions for your wedding to help you navigate the stress of planning and the big day.
1. Set a (Realistic) Timeline
If you’re just starting out with your wedding planning, take a look at the calendar and set a realistic timeline for yourself. This goes for booking vendors, choosing a dress, sending invites and more. If you’re deep into planning, it’s not too late to create a planning timeline to keep you on track. And if you already have that timeline, resolve to stick to it!
2. Don’t Obsess
Wedding planning can take over your life if you let it. But don’t let it! Resolve to set aside a specific amount of time each week for wedding planning. This will allow you to focus on your wedding but not obsess over it each and every day.
3. Set Aside Me (and Us) Time
You can get lost in wedding planning. Since you’ve already stuck to resolution two of not obsessing, use some of that free time on yourself. Give yourself a ‘me day.’ Spend time with your future spouse. Plan a date night. Or just stay in and chill. Anything to take you away from planning so you can relax.
4. Keep Yourselves in Your Wedding
It can be tough to listen to everyone’s opinion – and trust us, everyone has one. But it’s important to make sure that both you and your spouse’s personalities come through at your wedding. From something simple like signature drinks to an all-out affair with a theme that screams both of you. Remember to keep you in your wedding!
5. Block Out the Negative
Because everyone does have an opinion, it can be hard to ignore those negative comments. But remember, this is your day. So, resolve to take each opinion and comment with a grain of salt, and don’t sweat it.
6. Stick to Your Budget
Just as you’re setting a realistic timeline, you want to set a realistic budget. Sure, we can get caught up in those little details that we just know will make the day even more special (Customized napkins? Extravagant favors?). But it’s important to resolve to stick to your budget – you don’t want to start your marriage off in debt from your wedding. Think about what is most important to you, and splurge on those things.
7. Ask for Help
If you’re struggling with planning, ask for help. No one is going to judge you. And your bride tribe and loved ones will be more than happy to help out.
8. Remember Why You’re Getting Married
With all the hustle and bustle of planning, we can often forget why we’re getting married. We might start to snap at our future spouse over things like seating charts, guest lists or even the ‘do not play’ list. But don’t let that hurt your relationship. Take some time to remember the reasons why you’re getting married. Because at the end of your wedding day, that is all that matters.
9. Be Present
Once the big day arrives, resolve to be present and enjoy the moment. Take time as newlyweds to look around that room filled with love. The day goes fast, so put the phone down, and be present on that day.
And remember when it gets overwhelming, the BOLI community is here for you. When the big day comes, just relax, enjoy yourself and don’t sweat the small stuff. Cheers to a great new year!