In Brides of Long Island’s Monthly “Mrs.” series, we profile some of our members’ unforgettable weddings. This month, we spoke with Katherine about why finding the perfect venue was so important.
(Photo courtesy of Foxlight Studios)
Throughout wedding planning, Katherine and Lin checked in with each other to ensure that what they envisioned for their Nov. 10, 2023 wedding would happen. They even included their unique twists on classic wedding traditions.
A Speed Dating Event to Remember
Katherine and Lin met at a “unique” vegan speed dating event in Brooklyn, according to Katherine. That uniqueness has been a part of their lives ever since, even up to their wedding day. Four years after that event, Lin proposed on their dating anniversary in July 2022 – at the same restaurant where they met. “After he proposed, he shared a video that he got my friends and family to make with congratulations messages,” Katherine says.
Their wedding plans were slightly derailed, as they both got COVID-19 immediately after getting engaged. But that didn’t stop Katherine from joining the Brides of Long Island Facebook group to start searching for potential vendors.
The Importance of Their Venue
The venue was their most important vendor in their search. “We had specific needs,” Katherine says. “Lin’s mother is in a power wheelchair and we wanted to make sure she was comfortable navigating around.” They also wanted to make sure their venue could accommodate a vegan menu. And they found their perfect venue in Stewart Manor Country Club. “Not only did it check both boxes as far as handicap access and a vegan menu,” Katherine says, “but I really loved the look of it – it has a rustic, romantic, boho feeling – and when we took a tour, I could picture us getting married there.” She says the exposed wood ceilings with string lights and warm fireplace was exactly what she and Lin were looking for. “And the wooden bar! I could just picture my uncles crowded around drinking beers,” she says.
After they picked their venue, they started looking for photographers. “I know we’ll have those photos and videos forever, so we wanted to make sure we found someone that fit our personalities and style,” Katherine says. They clicked immediately with Chris and Jackie from Foxlight Studios, a BOLI preferred vendor. “We wanted to have a really classic and timeless look when it came to photography,” says Katherine. And they also wanted to include a nature backdrop. They also loved that they actually met with their photographer during their consultation. “It was great to see right away if we would vibe with them – which we did.”
(Photo courtesy of Foxlight Studios)
Some Unique Twists
Katherine made her own wood flowers. “I dyed and arranged them myself, and I was so happy with the way they came out,” she says. “Plus, it was a great outlet to dive into during the stress of planning.”
Katherine and Lin did other fun things like include a cookie table so guests could enjoy some sweet treats. “I have family in Pittsburgh, and it’s a tradition there to have a cookie table at weddings,” says Katherine. “It was so important to me to have a cookie table – and I made sure that all of the cookies were vegan. And it was such a hit with our guests.”
Since Katherine got her cookie table, she wanted Lin to incorporate something from his Chinese roots. “We thought a lion dance would be really cool,” says Katherine. So they found a company in Shirley that worked with their wedding timeline to perform the dance. “It was such a fun surprise for our guests.”
Their first look, though, was a special moment for Katherine and Lin that really stood out from their wedding day. At the suggestion of their limo company, Sir Oliver Limousine, a BOLI Preferred Vendor, they took one party bus with their bridal party to the venue for their first look – but Lin was blindfolded the whole ride. “It was such a fun idea, we knew we had to do it,” she says. And even though Katherine didn’t think Lin would get emotional when he took off the blindfold, he did. “He started crying, and I was not expecting that. It was such a special moment for us.”
Katherine also got emotional during her walk down the aisle. “My father was diagnosed with cancer the summer of 2023, so he was going through treatment leading up to the wedding,” she explains. “It was a very emotional moment for us, and we both started crying as he walked me down the aisle.” Her father is cancer free this year.
(Photo courtesy of Foxlight Studios)
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A Change of Shoes and Fun First Dance
For their first dance, Katherine and Lin wanted to wow their guests with some choreography. “We’re not dancers, and I’m not very coordinated,” Katherine says. “So we took lessons, and the instructors were fantastic.” They worked with Fred Astaire Dance Studios, a BOLI Preferred Vendor. “We were practicing until two days before the wedding, and it was such a fun experience.”
Katherine says James, the maitre d at Stewart Manor Country Club, went above and beyond the entire night. “Lin and I don’t really like to bother people and do a lot of things ourselves,” Katherine says. “But James wouldn’t let us. He would just show up to take care of things before we even had a chance to think about it.” Like with her change of shoes! “I wanted to change into Keds to get more comfortable, and there is James changing my shoes at the head table in the middle of the reception,” Katherine says. “It was so nice because we could just focus on enjoying the day.”
During the cocktail hour, Katherine says Paige and the PR Creations team, a BOLI Preferred Vendor, came to give her and her bridesmaids touch ups on their makeup and hair. “I was so grateful for them,” Katherine says. “And I got to change my hair – which was perfect to transition from the cocktail hour to the reception.”
(Photo courtesy of Foxlight Studios)
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Staying True
Katherine says it was important for her and Lin to stay true to themselves and what they wanted. She encourages other brides to talk to their fiancés early on in the planning process to make sure they stay on the same page. “Things will change, and that’s okay,” says Katherine. “And as those things change, it’s still important to not lose sight of what’s most important to you and your future spouse.”
(Photo courtesy of Foxlight Studios)
Vendors:
Venue: Stewart Manor Country Club
Photographer/Videographer: Foxlight Studios, a BOLI Preferred Vendor
DJ: Marc/All Occasion DJ
Hair/Makeup: PR Creations, a BOLI Preferred Vendor
Officiant: Rev. Joe Iadanza, Church of Ancient Ways, a BOLI Preferred Vendor
Bridesmaid Dresses: Revelry
Cake: Rose Valley Cakes
Tuxedos: Groom – Giorgenti; Groomsmen – Men’s Warehouse
Limo: Sir Oliver Limousine, a BOLI Preferred Vendor
Dance Lessons: Fred Astaire Garden City, a BOLI Preferred Vendor
(Photo courtesy of Foxlight Studios)
Here are a few tips to make sure your outdoor wedding goes smoothly.
Whether your outdoor wedding will be in your backyard or another location, there are a lot of things you should keep in mind during your planning process. From lacking a weather back-up plan to not having enough seating, don’t make these common mistakes if you’re planning an outdoor wedding.
Not Communicating Specifics To Your Guests
No matter the outdoor venue, you should make sure your guests know that it will be outside. Make sure that they know to dress accordingly (think suggesting they have a jacket if it gets cold, or not wearing heels because they’ll be walking on grass). You want to make sure guests know what to expect throughout the event.
Not Having Appropriate Seating
If you’re planning an outdoor wedding, it’s important to make sure you have enough seats for all your guests. This probably means having extra seating, but at least you’ll know that all your guests have the option to sit if they want.
Not Enough Lighting
String lighting is nice, but will it be enough lighting for all your guests? Make sure specific areas are well lit, including walkways, entrances, exits, and restrooms..
Not Having a Weather Back-Up Plan
This is huge. We all expect to have beautiful weather on our wedding day, but sometimes that’s not in the cards. It’s important to have a backup plan for any sort of weather. Can the party be moved indoors? Is there a backup location (if so, how will you communicate this to your guests)? Do you have a big enough tent to protect from the elements?
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Not Planning for Outdoor Conditions
It’s one thing to have a weather back-up plan. But have you thought about wind, dirt, bugs, extreme heat, or colder temps? There are simple ways to nip all of those in the bud. For example – provide bug spray or citronella candles, make sure the tent is sturdy enough to withstand wind, or consider having a heat source (think a heater or fire pit). If it’s going to be hot, look into fans in any tent you have, or provide smaller fans for guests.
Not Having Enough Shade or Shelter
While we’re talking about weather, it’s important that you have enough shade for guests. Even in the cooler months, the sun can get hot without any shade. Make sure you have enough areas that provide ample shade or shelter from the sun and any other elements.
Forgetting About Parking
There’s no way all of your guests will fit in a driveway. So, you’ll want to make sure there’s enough parking – be it in the street or a nearby parking lot. You could also think about getting a valet to handle parking if there’s not enough close to where the wedding will be.
Not Having Enough Restrooms
Depending on where your outdoor wedding will be, you’ll need to think about ample restrooms. If it’s a backyard party, definitely consider port-o-potties or other portable facilities. Most companies offer upscale trailers for a classier option. Don’t forget this, otherwise you’ll have all of your guests lining up for the restroom in your home.
Not Having Enough Water
You’ll want to make sure you have enough, especially in the warmer months. Water should be free-flowing at your outdoor wedding.
Not Checking on Noise Ordinances
When you start planning your outdoor wedding, think about your music. Will you have a DJ? Or will you be using speakers and a great Spotify list? Either way, you’ll want to check with the town on any noise ordinances (such as no DJs or loud music after a certain time). This way you can plan accordingly.
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Not Considering a Dance Floor
If you know your crowd will dance all night, consider getting a dance floor. It will elevate your outdoor wedding, and will save people from getting stuck in the grass or possibly slipping if it gets wet.
Not Hiring Enough Wait Staff
When it comes to your wedding day, you shouldn’t have to lift a finger. This includes an outdoor wedding that you’ve DIY’d, so it’s important to hire enough wait staff. They will stick with your timeline, tend to your guests, clean up and make sure your kitchen is spotless after it’s over.
Some other things to remember when planning your outdoor wedding is making sure the area is accessible for guests who might need assistance, ordering enough food and drinks, and ensuring there’s enough ice.
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Just remember, it’s going to be a day filled with love, joy and happiness, as you and your future spouse start the next chapter in your lives.
Looking for a little dress inspo? Check out these iconic gowns from past and present.
Choosing a dress for your big day can be a challenge! Do you go mermaid or A-line? Sequins or lace? Short or long? If you’re still trying to make up your mind, use some of these iconic wedding gowns from throughout history as a little dress inspiration.
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1. Jaqueline Bouvier-Kennedy
Jackie Bouvier married John F. Kennedy, then a US senator, on September 12, 1953. Her silk dress with full skirt was designed by African American designer Ann Lowe.
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2. Grace Kelly
American actress Grace Kelly became royalty when she married Prince Rainer III of Monaco on April 19, 1955. Her dress, which featured thousands of pearls and a high neckline, was designed by Academy Award-winning costume designer Helen Rose.
3. Princess Diana
Lady Diana Spencer transformed to “Princess Diana” when she married Prince Charles on July 29, 1981. Her iconic hand-embroidered gown made of silk taffeta was designed by Elizabeth and David Emmanuel.
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4. Carrie Bradshaw/Sarah Jessica Parker
Okay, so this one may not be from a real wedding (and one that got called off, at that!), but no iconic wedding gown dress would be complete without Carrie Bradshaw’s incredible gown from the Sex and the City movie.
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5. Princess Kate
Catherine, Princess of Wales brings our royals count to 3! Kate stunned the world on April 19, 2011 in her Alexander McQueen gown, featuring a modest V-neckline and a 9-foot train.
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6. Meghan Markle
Like Grace Kelly, Meghan Markle became another American-turned-royal when she married Prince Harry on May 19, 2018. Her simple, classic-yet-elegant gown was designed by Givenchy’s Claire Wright Keller.
7. Paris Hilton
Inspired by another iconic gown on this list, Paris Hilton walked the aisle on November 21, 2021 in a stunning Oscar de la Renta design. The high neckline and detailed embroidery were a nod to Grace Kelly’s wedding day attire.
It can be frustrating when people aren’t responding as your RSVP date gets closer.
Putting together your guest list is stressful enough, but when those guests don’t RSVP in a timely fashion, it can make you want to pull your hair out. The many things you’ll need to address when wedding planning might distract you from worrying about your guest count. Let’s face it though, it can be hard not to watch your mailbox for those RSVP cards.
Before you start panicking that no one is going to show up for your wedding, here is what to do when your guests don’t RSVP.
Wait for the Deadline
People are busy. If they’re anything like this BOLI blogger, they either RSVP right away, or put the invite in a safe spot and then realize at the last minute that they forgot to respond. Give your guests until the deadline before you start asking if they’re coming or not.
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Send Out Reminders
Once the deadline passes (or maybe the day of your RSVP date), send out gentle reminders to your guests. A simple text or email with something along the lines of, “Hey, we would love to celebrate our wedding day with you, but haven’t heard from you yet. Hoping you can come!”
Make Phone Calls
Start making those phone calls, especially if they are people you were expecting to have there on your big day. It could be they just forgot to RSVP, or assumed you knew they were coming.
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Enlist Help
If there is a large number of people who haven’t RSVP’d, enlist the help of your bride tribe or family members to contact your expected guests. This is especially helpful if your parents or future in-laws have invited friends and family who you don’t see too often.
Assume Some No Shows
At some point, you will have to assume they’ll be some no shows. And that’s OK! If you’ve already contacted the loved ones you really want there, assume anyone else (think – your second cousin on your mother’s side) is a no show. Just move on, no need to stress over it any more than you have already.
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Keep Some Seats Open
If people are still keeping you guessing, reserve a few open at some tables. For example, if the table holds up to 12, assign 8 guests but tell the venue to leave the other 4 seats open. Keep in mind that this means you’ll have to pay for those seats. However, if you’re under your minimum, you’re paying for them anyway!
Reach Out to BOLI
If you’re finding that people aren’t RSVPing and you’ll be under your minimum, you can always create a BOLI table. Our brides could be going through the same thing, and are always willing to help out a fellow bride to make her day the best day ever.
Remember – at the end of the day, don’t worry about the people who didn’t RSVP or who didn’t show up. Just appreciate the ones who did share in the celebration as you start your next chapter with your future spouse.
Jessica Szohr met Brad Richardson at Coachella in 2018
Image by Janelle Etzel Photography, via The Knot
This isn’t just gossip, girl! Actress Jessica Szohr, featured in shows like Gossip Girl, Shameless, and The Orville, wed former NHL player Brad Richardson in Arizona on August 11, 2024. The four-day event held at Pine Canyon in Flagstaff was filled with “elegant, boho-chic” flair. “It was the most magical, beautiful day, filled with people we love the most,” Szohr told The Knot.
After a chance meeting at 2018’s Coachella music festival and a “low-key” engagement, Szohr solidified their wedding aesthetic based on an early find — her Galia Lahav dress. “My style is a little more boho…but when I put it on, I felt like a goddess,” Szohr said of the designer’s “Tokyo” gown.
Image by Janelle Etzel Photography, via The Knot
After debating the possibility of a wedding in Italy or on the Coachella grounds, Szohr and Richardson decided on the luxury golf club Pine Canyon. “[Flagstaff] has given us so many memories as a family over the last couple of years,” she described to The Knot. “I wanted to tie that in with this magnificent, fancy and chic dress.”
The festivities began on Friday August 9, when 150 of Szohr and Richardson’s loved ones arrived in Arizona. After a round of golf and a relaxing evening of burgers, hot dogs, and live music, the official welcome party began on August 10. The event featured a bounce house, brick oven pizza, pickleball, and another Galia Lahiv dress.
Image by Janelle Etzel Photography, via The Knot
By Sunday, everyone was ready for the main event. The day began with a pool party for the guests, while Szohr’s 12-member bridal party prepared. Szohr’s best friend, The Vampire Diaries star Nina Dobrev, served as maid of honor. “I couldn’t believe how magical and special she made everything for the wedding,” Szohr gushed. “I said whoever is getting married next in our friend group, I feel bad if Nina is not their maid of honor.”
The bride accessorized her gown with Louboutin heels and a custom-embroidered veil, with a phrase attributed to her late grandfather: take time to smell the roses. “He would always say that to us,” Szohr explained to The Knot. “My life was so fast with Gossip Girl, but he would always say ‘just make sure you’re taking time to smell the roses.’ That stuck with me.”
Image by Janelle Etzel Photography, via The Knot
After the couple exchanged vows, they invited their guests to an untraditional cocktail hour and reception. The bride and groom shared a first dance to the song “Faithfully,” performed by Szohr’s step-father, and the bride changed into her third Galia Lahiv dress of the weekend. “I love to get down, so I knew I needed to wear something where I could really dance,” Szohr told The Knot.
Post-wedding, Szohr and Richardson will continue spending time doing the things they love. “It kind of feels like we were married before,” Szohr commented. “But it’s nice that I can call him my husband, and he really is my husband.”
Image by Janelle Etzel Photography, via The Knot
Szohr/Richardson Wedding Vendors:
Venue: Pine Canyon
Photographer: Janelle Etzel Photography
Wedding Planner: Janie Reese
Florist: Form Floral
Wedding gowns: Galia Lahiv
Shoes: Christian Louboutin
Jewelry: Established Jewelry
Bridesmaids Dresses: Show Me Your Mumu
Flower Girl Dresses: LoveShackFancy
Glam: Sydney Peters
Catering: Chef Albert Park
In addition to diamond shape, you should also consider the cut, color, clarity and carat.
Diamonds come in all shapes and sizes, so how do you tell which one is right for you? Besides looking at diamond shape, you should also consider the cut, color, clarity and carat of the diamond you’re interested in. Diamond cut is different from diamond shape. The cut is how the diamond’s facets interact with the light, whereas the shape refers to the actual outline of the diamond.
Below are eight popular diamond shapes. But which one should you choose?
Round
The round diamond shape is considered the most popular and traditional shape. With over 50 facets, it maximizes its brilliance and fire in the light.
Princess
Another very popular shape. The princess has a sharp square shape with pointed corners. It works well with a variety of different settings.
Princess Shaped Diamond
Oval
Oval diamonds are elegant and elongated, which is a unique twist on the round shape. Some consider it a flattering choice as it can make fingers look longer and slimmer.
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Cushion
A cushion-shaped diamond has rounded corners. It can be a square or rectangular outline with soft edges, which gives off a vintage, yet contemporary, appeal.
Marquise
A marquise is oval shaped with pointed tips at each end. This is the perfect shape for those looking for a unique or dramatic look.
Pear
The pear-shaped diamond is also known as a teardrop diamond. It combines the features of a round and marquise shape. It’s considered a very unique shape with a rounded edge on one side and a pointed tip.
Pear Shaped Diamond
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Radiant
The radiant shape is a rectangle or square with soft round edges. This can also work well in different settings.
Heart
This unique setting is shaped as, well, a heart. And while it’s unique, it does take some precision cutting to make it perfectly-shaped. A true symbol of love.
Only you and your future spouse can choose the perfect diamond for you. Before you decide, really take the time to picture your ring on your finger. Have you always wanted something traditional like a round or princess shape? Or maybe you want to stand out with a pear or marquise shape. If you work with your hands, that’s also something you should take into consideration. Will a more unique shape get in the way of work? Think about the type of band and setting you would like, too. Remember, the princess and radiant shapes work well with all different types of settings.
Just remember that whichever diamond shape you choose, your engagement ring will be beautiful. It’s a symbol of your love and the next chapter in your lives together.
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In Brides of Long Island’s “Am I a Bridezilla?” the BOLI team weighs in on an anonymous submission asking that dreaded question. What do you think?
Dear BOLI,
My wedding is a few months away, and we just sent out our invitations. We included a line at the bottom that said “Adults-only ceremony and reception” because as much as I love kids, we don’t want any attending the wedding.
I figured we may get “no’s” from a few parents which we totally understand, but my cousin is taking it to the next level. She is insisting that she bring her two kids — ages 3 and 5 — to our wedding, and says that not inviting them is offensive to her family.
To give you some context, my cousin is someone who brings her children everywhere, even to places that I feel are totally inappropriate. For example: my brother had his 30th birthday party at a cocktail bar on a Friday night. My cousin showed up with her kids, let them run around the place screaming and climbing on tables, and never even attempted to keep them occupied or calm. Several people at the bar complained to the bartender, who then asked my cousin to leave with her kids. She freaked out on the bartender and eventually left, but it was incredibly embarrassing for everyone and my brother’s party was ruined.
I know that if I allowed my cousin to bring her children to my wedding, the same thing would happen. She always laughs it off and says “kids will be kids” when they’re causing a scene, and I don’t want them wrecking havoc during my vows or first dance while she acts like nothing is wrong. If I could trust her to keep them under control I might make an exception, but I know that won’t happen.
So am I a Bridezilla for not inviting her kids to my wedding? Is it really that offensive to leave them off the invite list?
Signed,
Frustrated Cousin
Dear Frustrated Cousin,
You are absolutely not a bridezilla for not inviting your cousin’s children to your wedding.
“Adults-only” weddings are very common for good reason. Let’s be honest — unless you’re planning on having your reception at a Chuck E. Cheese, weddings are far from an ideal place for kids. They need to be still and quiet for the length of a ceremony, then behave at a 4-hour long party with loud music, (probably drunk) adults, and no age-appropriate activities to keep them entertained. Overstimulation and boredom is not a great combination when it comes to littles.
How your cousin parents her children is her business, but your guest list is YOUR business. If your cousin’s children are disruptive in places that aren’t exactly “kid-friendly,” and she doesn’t ever feel the need to monitor or discipline them in those environments, then you have every right to exclude the kids from the invite list — both for your sanity and their safety. You also have every right to exclude whoever you want from your invite list, regardless of their age or usual behavior. It’s your wedding and you call the shots.
If your cousin is offended, that’s okay. She gets to feel however she feels about any situation, and you can’t control how someone is going to react to your decisions. I would do my best to explain that you love her and you love her children, but your wedding is not going to be an appropriate place for ANYONE’S kids — not just hers. She’s not the only guest whose invite said “adults only,” and there’s not going to be anything at the wedding that would specifically cater to children. She may not agree with you, but that’s okay too.
Parenting is hard, and it’s possible your cousin is feeling isolated from the rest of your family — especially if she’s the only one with young kids. It’s also possible that on some level she knows her children’s behavior can be an issue, and her reaction was defensive. Again, I’d remind her that it’s not JUST her kids that aren’t invited, and offer to help her find a vetted babysitter for the evening so that she can still come. That’s something you may want to offer other parents as well.
Since you said she’s “insisting,” there is a chance that she may try to attend with her children anyway. I would put a game plan in place now for that scenario.
In Brides of Long Island’s Monthly “Mrs.” series, we profile some of our members’ unforgettable weddings. This month, Stefanie talks about who she relied on as she planned her wedding from Florida.
(Photo courtesy of Gelfman Photography)
When Stefanie and Jacob started dating in their senior year at Hofstra University, she never thought she’d be living in Florida – let alone planning their wedding on Long Island from the Sunshine State. But that’s just what she did for their July 21, 2024 nuptials. And even though it was stressful, she says everything came out perfect.
A Beach Proposal
Stefanie says she and Jacob moved down to Tampa when he got his dream job working for the Yankees. Unbeknownst to her, Jacob asked her parents if he could marry her the day they moved into their apartment in Florida. “He said he knew I was the one when I agreed to move down south with him,” she says. Later that December in 2022, Jacob told her there was a company holiday party at his job…on the beach. And while she was a little skeptical, she went with it. What she wasn’t expecting was an empty beach and Jacob’s proposal. “I was completely shocked, and I said, ‘Wait, there’s no party?’” she says with a laugh. Afterwards, they went to an Italian restaurant where both of their families were waiting to celebrate.
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Long Distance Planning
They knew they wanted to have their wedding on Long Island, so Stefanie started planning in January 2023 for their July 2024 date. She says while most of the vendor meetings were on Zoom, she did come back up to tour some venues. She eventually fell in love with Water’s Edge in Centerport. “Any appointments after Water’s Edge I canceled, because I loved how modern and sleek it was,” Stefanie says. “I knew when I walked in that it was the venue where I wanted to get married.”
After the venue was booked, Stefanie and Jacob focused on finding a great photographer. “I remember looking at my parents’ wedding photo growing up, and I wanted amazing photos that our future family would be looking at,” she explains. They had heard of Gelfman Photography, a BOLI preferred vendor, from her friend’s wedding. “I happened to notice at her wedding that the photographers were very close and worked extremely well together,” Stefanie says. “I found out they were a couple, who have since gotten married. And I loved that it was a relationship team working together in photography.”
Even with the distance, and plenty of Zoom meetings, Stefanie says that she was able to book all of the vendors she wanted without any issues. Stefanie’s mother and now mother-in-law were on all of those Zoom calls, too. “They were a huge help joining the meetings,” says Stefanie. “And if any vendor wanted me to come and see something, they would go in my place.” She adds that her parents actually chose their wedding cake, as they went to Dortoni’s for a cake tasting and let Stefanie and Jacob know which was the best. “It was pretty stressful, but between the vendors and our parents, it was a relatively simple planning experience,” she says.
(Photo courtesy of Gelfman Photography)
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A Calm Morning & Fun Evening
With all of the stress in the long-distance planning, Stefanie says the morning of her wedding was completely stress-free. “I was really surprised at how calm I was,” she says. “I always thought I’d be so nervous.” But she says, getting ready with her bridesmaids, grandmothers, mother and mother-in-law, was fun. “I honestly had the best time.” She says she did get a little nervous for the first look, but it was a nice moment for her and Jacob. “It was such a special moment for the two of us, I was able to block everything else out to calm my nerves, and focus on each other.”
Their wedding day was filled with love, laughter and lots of color. “I really wanted to take advantage of it being summer and using a lot of color in my flowers,” she explains. “I wanted something fun and whimsical. And Bree from Wildflower Touch really knocked it out of the park. She understood my vision, and the flowers were perfect.” Jacob and Stefanie’s beloved dog Ollie couldn’t travel from Florida, but they still made sure to include him. “We named a drink after him – the Ollie Pops,” Stefanie says. She adds that they also had cutouts of Ollie’s head on sticks that they danced with all night. “It was great seeing his head bob up and down throughout the night on the dance floor. I loved that we were able to incorporate him into the party!”
Stefanie says all of her vendors were amazing. However Shay, the bridal attendant at Water’s Edge, truly made their wedding spectacular. “It was so hot that day, and Shay was always right there with ice water and lipstick for touch ups,” she says. “Whatever I needed, Shay was two steps ahead of me, ready to help me with whatever I needed. She made the day so special for us.”
Stefanie also says that Beaute Plans by A + C, a BOLI preferred vendor, were also fantastic. “There were so many people getting hair and makeup done that morning, and they made the morning smooth with no issues,” says Stefanie. “We all just jammed out to music and chatted with them like they had been our friends for years. And everyone’s hair and makeup came out great!”
(Photo courtesy of Gelfman Photography)
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Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff
Something Stefanie learned throughout the wedding planning process was not to sweat the small stuff. “Trust me, all the little things that I stressed about, like place cards or frames for the drink menus or even a hanger for my dress, they did not matter in the end,” she says. “Everything was perfect, and it was stress that was not needed.”
Of course, because of the long-distance planning, Stefanie says she relied heavily on the Brides of Long Island Facebook group. “It was so great to get the opinions of other brides, as well as inspiration from their photos,” she says.
(Photo courtesy of Gelfman Photography)
Vendors:
Venue: Water’s Edge
Photographer: Gelfman Photography, a BOLI preferred vendor
Videography: Rick J. Studios
DJ: Bravura
Florist: Wildflower Touch
Hair/Makeup: Beaute Plans by A + C, a BOLI preferred vendor
Photo Booth: Long Island Photo Booth
With an award-winning executive chef, the food at The Lannin is out of this world.
(Photo courtesy of Jenn Kimmel Photography)
As couples start touring venues for their wedding day, oftentimes a delicious menu is at the top of their ‘must-have’ lists. Is the food good? What are the cocktail hour options? What is unique about their dishes? With award-winning executive chef Tom Gloster in the kitchen, couples should run to The Lannin, a BOLI preferred vendor, and book their wedding. “We have an elevated a la carte experience in catering,” said co-owner Elias Trahanas. The best part? You don’t have to take our word that the food is good – you can enjoy a meal at their on-premise restaurant, The Union, where Gloster is always creating culinary masterpieces.
The Lannin is located in the heart of Nassau County at the Eisenhower Park Golf Course, inside the former home of The Carltun. It is under new ownership, and has been completely renovated to offer brides a bespoke experience on their wedding day.
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Unique Cocktail Hour Stations
Culinary excellence takes center stage at The Lannin’s cocktail hour. With two distinctive stations, you and your guests will find it hard to save room for the main course. One of the highlights is the sushi station, where an in-house sushi chef hand-rolls fresh sushi right before your eyes. “Our sushi chef prepares each roll on the spot during cocktail hour,” said Trahanas. Equally impressive is the Tomahawk steak carving station. “The steaks are displayed hanging,” Trahanas explained. “As guests approach, the chef expertly carves the meat, offering a tantalizing taste. It’s always a crowd favorite.”
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Exceptional Dishes
Gloster and his team of culinary experts craft seasonal menus that showcase only the finest and freshest ingredients. Among their standout offerings is a timeless favorite: filet mignon, guaranteed to impress. “Our meats are sourced exclusively from Prime Foods,” Trahanas assures. “So brides can trust they’re serving top-tier, aged cuts.” For seafood lovers, the seared branzino and grilled salmon are equally enticing, each bursting with flavor and expertly prepared. Every course is a culinary journey, transporting your guests to the exotic origins of each dish and ensuring they leave utterly satisfied.
Don’t Forget Dessert
Make sure to save room for dessert, because The Lannin’s sweet offerings are a perfect finale to an unforgettable meal. Delight your guests with an array of decadent desserts, including classics like a beautifully-layered wedding cake, hand-crafted by expert pastry chefs. For those with a penchant for variety, indulge in a lavish dessert station featuring a selection of mini pastries, fresh fruit tarts and velvety mousse cups. And for a touch of nostalgia, consider adding a warm, gooey chocolate fondue fountain with an assortment of dippable treats. Each dessert is a masterpiece, crafted to satisfy every sweet tooth and provide a fitting ending to your culinary journey at The Lannin.
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Customized Experience
At The Lannin, brides have the opportunity to create the wedding of their dreams. And it doesn’t stop at decorating the modern venue. “Just like the space itself, brides get a bespoke experience when creating their menus,” said Trahanas. “We’re definitely open to trying new things on our menu.”
The menu can also be tailored to vegetarians or gluten-free. They also offer a Kosher option, with a separate Kosher kitchen.
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About two months before the wedding, all of The Lannin brides get to have a tasting and try all of the delicious foods.
From its one-wedding-at-a-time experience and picturesque landscape to its award-winning food, The Lannin has everything a bride needs to create the wedding of her dreams.
Take your spouses name, or keep your own? Why not blend them together! Here are some good reasons to combine your last names.
Many brides of Long Island are comfortable taking their spouse’s last name, and many decide to keep their own. Some even decide that hyphenating their last names makes the most sense.
However, there’s a growing trend among many couples tying the knot — combining two surnames into an entirely new last name.
Combining last names (also called name blending) may seem a little unorthodox, but a lot of newlyweds feel that it’s the best decision. Here are a few reasons why you may want to combine your last names after marriage.
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It signifies a new start
Many couples choose name blending as a way to start fresh. This can be the case for newlyweds that had difficult relationships with relatives growing up, or for those who don’t strongly identify with their surnames and background.
Of course, the opposite can also be true — some partners feel incredibly tied to their names, and don’t want to adopt a new one after marriage. Combining your last names can be a compromise that honors both heritages, while also celebrating the start of your new family.
It can simplify things
In the past, choosing to hyphenate maiden names with married names was a popular choice. But this can get complicated, especially if both partners have long surnames. It can get even trickier if the pair plans to have children — will they take the hyphenated name, or the married name? Name blending can solve this problem, and give you plenty of space to write your new last name on paperwork 😂
It can show unity and equality
Marriage is a partnership, and giving each of your names equal footing can do a lot to symbolize that fact. Choosing to combine your last names represents both of you fairly, and allows both of you to enter into the next chapter with a shiny new last name.
It puts an end to patriarchal practices
Not to be unromantic, but do you know why women always took their husband’s last name after marriage? Because until a few centuries ago, women were considered their husband’s property with no independent legal identity of their own. A lot of brides don’t want to continue with a practice that’s rooted in inequality, but also want to share a name with their husbands and future children. If you combine your last names, your whole family can share in something that feels more modern and fair.
This is not to say that there’s anything wrong with taking your husband’s name! There are plenty of women that want and choose to do so. It’s totally up to you and what you feel comfortable doing — whether that’s taking your husband’s name, hyphenating names, or blending names — and there are no wrong decisions!
How to combine your last names on Long Island
If you and your fiancé have decided to combine your last names, you will simply need to use your new surname on your marriage license. Your new names are officially yours as soon as the ceremony is complete, and you can use your license as proof of identity to change your name elsewhere.