Should you take your mother-in-law dress shopping? Is it tradition, a common courtesy, or unnecessary?
Shopping for your wedding dress is one of the most iconic, pivotal, and fun moments of wedding planning. It’s surely something you will want to share with those closest to you, like your family and close friends.
But what about your future family members? Should you take your mother-in-law dress shopping with you? Is it a customary courtesy, just something nice to do, or totally unnecessary? As with most questions around wedding planning…it depends.
Know yourself
Every bride-to-be is different. Some are super social and want to include as many people as possible in any event. Some are more introverted and like to keep things small.
Shopping for your wedding gown should always be joyful, but if you’ve stacked the audience and you don’t enjoy being the center of attention, it can turn something fun into a real downer. The opposite is also true — if you want shopping to feel like a party but you’re only there with one or two people, you may feel a bit let down by the experience. Decide first where you fall on the spectrum. That can be a crucial step in determining your final dress shopping guest list.
It’s also important to research your top bridal boutiques before you make an appointment. Some salons only allow a certain number of guests to tag along, so keep that in mind!
Know your mother-in-law
Just like every bride is different, so is every mother-in-law. Some are kind and supportive, some…well…aren’t, and some may feel more like acquaintances than future family members.
You should know your future mother-in-law well enough by this point to know her general demeanor. Is she more quiet and reserved? Conservative and stoic? Loud and opinionated? Positive and outgoing? Will you feel encouraged and uplifted by those traits, or annoyed by them?
Remember, this is your wedding and your dress shopping experience. It’s important that you enjoy yourself, and that the event excites you for the big day.
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Know your relationship
Your future mother-in-law may feel like one of your best friends already. Or, they may not. Neither one is “good” or “bad,” it just is what it is. Family relationships are always complex, and that goes double for in-laws.
If you’re pretty close with your mother-in-law, inviting her dress shopping should be a no brainer! This is a mother figure in your life, and having her there will help to further cement all the positive aspects of your relationship. Again, remember that certain salons have guest limitations, so be sure to account for her when making your lists.
If you’re not close with your mother-in-law, there’s absolutely no law or rule that says they have to be there. Shopping for a wedding gown is a special, intimate, and meaningful event, and it should be shared with those closest to you.
If the answer is “no,” consider other ways she can be involved
While it’s totally fine to dress shop without your mother-in-law in tow, remember — it’s her child’s wedding too, and this person will be a member of your family soon. Consider including them in other aspects of wedding planning, like touring venues, bridal showers, tastings, or other events. Not only will this help your future mother-in-law feel involved in the process, but it will also help the two of you get to know each other better.
At a loss of where to begin with planning your honeymoon? These specialists have you covered.
We get it. You’re deep into wedding planning, and the thought of planning your honeymoon – which is supposed to be relaxing after your big day – is giving you anxiety.
Well, don’t worry. Below, we have some of our favorite Long Island honeymoon specialists at Brides of Long Island. Want a relaxing beach vacation? Done. Something more adventurous? No problem. Looking to explore a new country? Let’s go. These Long Island honeymoon specialists will plan every detail – and throw in some perks – to make sure you have the trip of a lifetime after your wedding day.
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Melissa at Tripguy Travel
With firsthand experience on exotic vacations from the South Pacific to Europe and across the country, Melissa at Tripguy Travel is the perfect honeymoon specialist to plan your getaway. She knows the best deals and will help you decide on the perfect destination for your once in a lifetime honeymoon.
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You and Me By the Sea Travel
With over 30 years experience, Christine at You and Me By the Sea Travel will not only help book your perfect honeymoon, but she’ll curate an itinerary unique to the wants and needs (and wildest dreams) of you and your future spouse. From Disney and Sandals honeymoons to the exotic islands of French Polynesia, Christine is ready to plan the honeymoon of your dreams. And if you are looking to plan a destination wedding, Christine is here to help.
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Ginger Peachy Travel
With over 30 years experience, Ginger Peachy Travel honeymoon specialists are ready to plan the perfect vacation after your wedding day. They work one-on-one with brides to create their dream honeymoon on any budget. They also specialize in destination weddings.
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Denville Travel Company
Ashley is a former BOLI looking to help fellow brides plan their dream honeymoon! From destination weddings and all inclusive resorts to Europe and the South Pacific, Ashley’s passion is to craft the honeymoon you’ve always dreamed of.
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Vacations by Kat
Kat believes your first trip as a married couple should feel like a deep exhale and a ‘This is so us’ moment. From knowing the resorts with the best cocktails to which Italian towns make for a dreamy, slow morning, Kat will help you plan the honeymoon of your dreams anywhere around the world. If you’re looking for a Greece, Italy or Caribbean honeymoon – Kat is the expert!
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Ultimate Getaway Finder
Bridget is ready to make sure your honeymoon actually feels like a honeymoon. She knows you’re deep into wedding planning and the last thing you need is honeymoon stress. That’s where Bridget comes in! She leaves no detail untouched. She specializes in romantic honeymoons, so you can just show up ready for a luxury getaway.
No matter where your dream honeymoon is, our specialists are ready to make those dreams a reality without the hassle of planning it yourself. So dream big and enjoy yourself as you sip that cocktail!
What’s important, what’s not, and how do you decide? Here’s how to determine your priorities when planning your wedding.
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“Do what makes you happy.” It’s a great piece of advice for nearly everything in your life, but especially for your wedding. Your day should be focused on you and filled with personal meaning. There are no wrong ways to celebrate this new chapter, and no shortage of moments, people, or events you can include.
It’s no secret that there are A LOT of choices you’ll have to make in the planning stages. So does every choice carry the same weight? Are your venue and centerpieces just as important as your guest list and gown?
Jumping into wedding planning without first deciding what’s important is a big mistake. It can be easy to lose yourself in all the decisions you have to make, so before you start comparing swatches and tasting cakes, be sure to determine your priorities. Here’s how to do just that.
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Envision your ideal day
Some brides have pictured their perfect wedding days since recess was a thing. But if you haven’t, now’s the time to start daydreaming! It may feel a bit silly, but turn off the lights, put the phone on Do Not Disturb, close your eyes, and just envision what the absolute best wedding day would look like.
Make note of the things that stand out to you: are there a lot of people there? Is the vibe subdued or lively? Does it take place inside or outside? Immerse yourself fully into this picture perfect day.
After your daydream sesh is done, take a moment to think about the things that didn’t pop out to you. Do you remember the flowers you saw, the music you heard, the dresses your bridesmaids were in, or what your future spouse was wearing? If you did, great! Those are details that you know mean something to you. If you didn’t, those may be aspects that can go further down the list (more on that below).
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Get a realistic budget
Now that you’ve got your perfect day in mind, sit down with your fiancé (and families, if they’re contributing) and decide on your budget. Start with a broad number that you’re willing to spend on your day as a whole — don’t break it down per vendor just yet!
List everything, then put it in order
Once you have your overall budget, list all of the vendors you’ll hire and all of the expenses you’ll encounter: venue, photographer, DJ, florist, officiant…you get the picture.
Now it’s time to go back to your perfect wedding daydream and all the things you noticed. If the surroundings were the most memorable part, your venue goes to the top of your list. Your venue should also nab the top spot if you thought mostly of your guest list — you’ll want to choose a venue that can accommodate the number in your head! If it was the party atmosphere and the packed dance floor, the DJ’s got the top spot. If it was flower walls and centerpieces, your florist should be a priority. If it was the way you felt when you looked in the mirror, your dress, hair, and makeup should be number one.
Keep in mind that there are a few important vendors that you may not have “envisioned” much during your wedding daydream, like a photographer, videographer, or content creator. Remember that they’ll document your picture-perfect day so that it’s more than just a memory. Account for them in your list, too.
You’ve got the budget, and now boom — you’ve got the priorities!
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When in doubt, pull out your list
Now that you have your overall budget and your list of priorities, making decisions about your wedding should be a bit easier.
Should you go with the super expensive DJ that did your friend’s wedding, or the one with modest prices (but great reviews)? Check your list and see where “DJ” fell. Should you spring for the exotic flowers in your bouquet? It might be worth considering, if it’s something you remembered from your ideal wedding daydreaming! Once you get specific with your priorities, choices become clearer and you’ll be more likely to stick within your budget.
Remember — at the end of the day, your wedding is just that. A day. The main focus should be on celebrating the love between you and your new spouse, and that can happen anywhere with any budget.
Whether you’re after full glam or a heightened natural look, research is key to find a makeup artist for Long Island Weddings
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It goes without saying that your makeup is a pretty crucial part of your overall bridal look. And even if you’re pretty handy with a makeup brush, chances are you’ll want to hire a pro to achieve exactly what you’re looking for.
There’s no shortage of talented makeup artists on the Island, and trying to decide between them can be pretty overwhelming. Here’s Brides of Long Island’s advice for finding the right makeup artist for Long Island weddings.
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Search Brides of Long Island’s Preferred Vendors
If you want to know for sure that you’re hiring a talented, dedicated, and extremely professional makeup artist, your search should start with Brides of Long Island’s Preferred Makeup Artists.
Everyone on our Preferred Vendor roster is there because they’ve been hired and admired by REAL brides, just like you. To be accepted as a BOLI Preferred Vendor, our makeup artists go a rigorous approval process that involves lots of research and lots of vetting. If an artist doesn’t have overwhelmingly positive reviews from the members of our community, they won’t make it onto our list.
On our website, you can browse all of our incredible makeup artists, see their work, learn more about what makes them tick, get to know them as artists and people, and even contact them to set up appointments.
Think of the BOLI website as your own curated collection of personal recommendations! Once you’ve found the best makeup artist for your big day, stick around to find other vendors and gather lots of wedding ideas.
Read reviews in the Brides of Long Island’s brides-only Facebook group
The BOLI brides-only Facebook group is a fantastic resource to find any vendor. In the group you can find recent reviews (usually with pictures!) and honest feedback about a variety of Long Island makeup artists.
If you’re a bride-to-be and NOT in the brides-only Facebook group, what are you waiting for? Join us today, we can’t wait to welcome you with peace, love and diamonds.
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Stalk your favorite Long Island makeup artists on social media
Instagram, TikTok, and other social media sites are great places to see expanded portfolios of your favorite makeup artists’ work. Once you’ve discovered a few potential artists, give them a follow and start scrolling through their pages for inspiration. Once you see a few looks that match your vibe, save the posts so you can come back to them during your trials!
Here’s something to keep in mind, though — with advances in AI, anyone can make it seem like they’re a pro. Be sure that the artists you follow have a mix of “before” and “afters” along with more professional shots. Look closely at their content. If a certain photo looks a bit off, it may be AI-generated (or at least very heavily filtered).
Ask your friends for their recommendations
Your bestie looked stunning on her big day, so don’t be shy — ask her for her makeup artist’s info! Word of mouth is one way that great makeup artists build their client base, and personal referrals are always appreciated.
If you’re attending some weddings as a guest, be sure to pay attention to the bride’s and bridesmaids’ looks. Like what you see? Message the bride! (After the wedding, of course).
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Use a search engine or chat bot
We’ll be honest here, search engines and AI chat bots are not our favorite ways to find Long Island makeup artists. Why? Any artist can pay to be the first result that shows up, and ChatGPT is frequently wrong about A LOT of things.
But if all else fails, these can be ways to do some research. Just be sure to do your own vetting before signing any contracts.
Book trials
Trials can get a bit pricey, so save this step for when you’ve narrowed it down to one or two artists. Your trial is an opportunity to see if you both can communicate with each other, they can execute the look you want, and if your personalities gel. Remember, your artist will be with you during a rather stressful morning, so you’ll want to be sure they have the right energy for the day.
Follow these tips, and you’ll be sure to hire the best person for the job!
Your bridal party plays a big role in your wedding journey, but it’s important to know what they can realistically take on and where the line is.
Your bridal party is made up of the people who love you most — the ones who will hype you up, stand by your side and celebrate every moment leading up to your big day.
But even the most devoted bridesmaids have limits, and the expectations around their roles have shifted in recent years. Between rising costs, busy schedules and a growing emphasis on mental health and boundaries, today’s brides need a clear sense of what’s fair to ask … and what isn’t. To help you navigate it all, we’ve broken down what you can and can’t expect of your bridal party in 2026.
Things You Can Expect from Your Bridal Party in 2026
Emotional Support
You can absolutely expect your bridal party to show up for you emotionally: to listen, reassure you when planning gets overwhelming and celebrate the big and small moments along the way.
Showing Up for Key Events
Bridesmaids should make every reasonable effort to attend the major milestones: the bridal shower, bachelorette, dress shopping (if invited) and, of course, the wedding day itself.
Helping With Small Tasks
You can expect your crew to pitch in with manageable tasks like addressing invitations, assembling favors or helping you brainstorm ideas when you’re stuck.
Planning the Bachelorette Party
You can expect someone from your bridal party to take the lead on planning the bachelorette party by coordinating dates, choosing activities that fit the group’s budget and making sure the celebration feels fun and true to your personality.
Being Present and Supportive On The Wedding Day
From keeping you calm to helping with your dress, bouquet or touch‑ups, your bridal party should be fully present and ready to support you throughout the day.
Respecting Your Vision
Even if they wouldn’t choose the same colors, dresses or aesthetic, your bridal party should honor your choices and help bring your vision to life.
Communicating Clearly
You can expect them to respond to group chats, share availability, ask questions when needed and keep you in the loop so planning doesn’t fall on your shoulders alone.
Being Kind to Each Other
Your bridal party should treat each other with respect, avoid drama and work together to make the experience enjoyable for everyone.
Your bridal party can do a lot — but they can’t do everything. Here’s where the line is.
Things You Can’t Expect From Your Bridal Party in 2026
Unlimited Time Commitment
Between work, family and life responsibilities, your bridal party can’t be available 24/7 or attend every single pre‑wedding event, especially if travel or scheduling conflicts are involved.
Covering Every Cost
Weddings are expensive for everyone, and in 2026 bridesmaids are more vocal about financial boundaries; you can’t expect them to pay for every outfit, event, gift and travel expense without discussion.
Taking On Full Planning Roles
Your bridal party isn’t your wedding planner; while they can help with small tasks, you can’t expect them to manage vendors, timelines or major logistics.
Matching Your Energy At All Times
Even the most supportive bridesmaid may not be as excited about every detail as you are, and that’s OK; you can’t expect them to mirror your enthusiasm 100% of the time.
Mediating Drama or Conflicts
It’s not their job to manage tension between guests, family members or other bridesmaids; you can’t expect them to play peacemaker or fix interpersonal issues.
Putting Their Personal Lives On Hold
You can’t expect your bridal party to pause major life events like moving, job changes, pregnancies or financial priorities just because you’re getting married.
At the end of the day, your bridal party is there because they love you and they want to make this season feel joyful, not stressful. When you understand what’s fair to expect (and what isn’t), you create space for a healthier, happier experience for everyone involved. Set clear expectations, honor their boundaries and remember that the people standing beside you on your wedding day are choosing to show up for you in the ways they genuinely can. And that’s what truly matters.
Long Island has some amazing wedding venues. Book a tour for these must-see locations.
You’re just engaged, and you have no idea where to start! There are hundreds of venues across the Island – everything from small restaurants to venues with a water view to actual castles. The possibilities are endless. Well, BOLI is here to help!
But why not book tours at some of Brides of Long Island’s favorite Long Island wedding venues? Here are 53 of our favorite wedding venues that are bound to have something to make one of the most important days of your life the best day ever!
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The Crescent Beach Club
Bayville
Imagine saying “I do” at sunset on a white sand beach, surrounded by palm trees with the blue water behind you. Well, you don’t have to travel off Long Island to do it! The Crescent Beach Club is on the beautiful Long Island Sound that gives couples a plethora of choices when it comes to photos and beyond. Its cocktail hour features steel pan drums, and its ballroom features floor-to-ceiling windows for breathtaking views of the beach and water at any time of day or night. And you can keep the party going on the beach after the reception with tiki torches and fire pits. The beach club’s capacity is 425.
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Westbury Manor
Westbury
Westbury Manor’s lush landscape is the perfect backdrop for your wedding. Set upon 5 acres, this mansion has several ballrooms and cocktail rooms to fit up to 300 guests.
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The Inn at New Hyde Park
New Hyde Park
This Long Island landmark was established in 1938. Its staff of event planners, management and culinary artists have a combined 200 years experience! The Inn can accommodate from 10-500 of your guests.
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Sunset Harbour
East Patchogue
Located in its own marina, tucked away along the Great South Bay, Sunset Harbour has been family owned and operated for the past 25 years. The marina offers stunning views of the water and makes for great sunset photos. It can accommodate up to 250 guests.
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Swan Lake Caterers
Manorville
This recently renovated boutique-style venue is located on the greens of Swan Lake Golf Course. It features a rustic indoor look with wine barrels, barn doors and lanterns.
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The Old Field Club
East Setauket
The Old Field Club offers waterfront views along the north shore with rustic yet elegant charm. On the smaller side, this intimate venue can accommodate up to 180 guests.
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The Meadow Club
Port Jefferson Station
This recently renovated property boasts crystal chandeliers and perfectly manicured gardens. The Meadow Club hosts one wedding at a time, and offers various packages that fit every budget and wedding party size!
The Lannin (Photo by J. Santini Photography)
The Lannin
East Meadow
This fully renovated venue is in the heart of Long Island, located inside Eisenhower Park golf course. If you’re looking to customize the luxury wedding of your dreams, the Lannin is the perfect place for you. From its modern classic look to its award-winning chef, the Lannin is surrounded by lush scenery for a wedding your guests will talk about for years to come.
The Piermont
Babylon
Nestled on the Great South Bay, this waterfront venue features floor-to-ceiling windows for your guests to enjoy beautiful sunsets and amazing water views. Couples can choose between indoor or outdoor ceremonies. The menus feature locally sourced products and American classics.
Fox Hollow
Woodbury
This state-of-the-art venue is located on Long Island’s Gold Coast, and gives couples plenty of options, including three different rooms to accommodate any size wedding party from 50-285 guests! It has several options for an on-site ceremony, including an outdoor garden. And it has an on-site hotel for couples to turn a wedding day into a wedding weekend! A truly full-service venue, Fox Hollow is sure to have something for every bride.
Watermill Caterers
Smithtown
Located in the heart of Suffolk County, this hidden gem features a sprawling estate, manicured landscapes, winding pathways and historic architecture. Your wedding will have old-world charm with luxurious modern comforts. It can accommodate up to 350 guests.
Insignia
Smithtown
This steakhouse-turned wedding venue can accommodate up to 300 guests. It offers indoor and outdoor spaces for a ceremony. Insignia combines the feel of a Hamptons-style mansion with an upscale Manhattan restaurant for a unique wedding. Menus range from prime-age steaks to fresh seafood and sushi.
Opus Steakhouse
Jericho
This re-imagined north shore mansion can be yours for your wedding day! It offers dramatic spaces offering endless views of lush gardens, a suspended wine loft and an open kitchen. To say Opus is unique is an understatement, and it’s sure to wow your up to 225 guests.
360 East at Montauk Downs
Montauk
Head to The End to celebrate your wedding day in the charm of a beach town with an elegant setting. Wow your guests, which can be up to 200, with views of Montauk. As a bonus, say your vows with the Montauk Lighthouse as your backdrop!
Heritage Club at Bethpage
Bethpage
The Heritage Club at Bethpage combines the richness of Long Island’s Heritage with the finest service and cuisine. Say your vows in a room with a grand chandelier on beautiful wooden floors, or outside in a charming gazebo with the Bethpage Black course as your backdrop. The ballroom offers floor to ceiling windows overlooking 1,500 acres of rolling greens. It can accommodate up to 500 guests.
The Mansion at Oyster Bay
Woodbury
Have your wedding with an authentic Gatsby era flare with modern accents and amenities. Your breath will be taken away by just the foyer alone with a roaring fireplace amid marble floors and a grand staircase. The ballroom features an outdoor patio allowing for an indoor/outdoor cocktail hour. It can accommodate up to 500 guests.
The Vineyards at Aquebogue
Aquebogue
The Vineyards has a rustic, farmhouse feel with enchanting gardens and, obviously, authentic vineyards. With a guest capacity of 300, this venue can host your ceremony, inside or outside, and reception. The cocktail hour can include a farm-to-table station with bison and flounder sliders, North Fork oyster chowder, salads and so much more. It offers a variety of enhancement packages, as well as all-inclusive packages for Saturday or Sunday day weddings.
Chateau at Coindre Hall
Huntington
With the Huntington Harbor as a backdrop, this mansion is both timeless and historic. Couples can exchange vows in the garden or the ballroom. And the photo opportunities are endless with a courtyard with vine-covered columns, a spiral staircase and six fireplaces. Coindre Hall can hold up to 200 guests for a night full of historic and elegant memories.
Essex Club
Brentwood
This quaint country club is set among 50 acres of rolling greens and picturesque perennials. Have your ceremony at the outside gazebo or in front of a roaring fireplace inside. And then dance the night away with up to 250 guests in the grand ballroom.
Stonebridge Country Club
Smithtown
This modern-day country club overlooks a lush, green golf course and woodlands, offering plenty of photo opportunities. Stonebridge can accommodate up to 350 guests. It has an outdoor gazebo for ceremonies, and a couple options for cocktail hour.
Bourne Mansion
Oakdale
This historic Vanderbilt Museum is located on the Great South Bay with breathtaking views inside and out. The mansion features 40-foot vaulted ceilings, an elegant wooden staircase and a grand ballroom. It can hold up to 300 of your guests.
Estate at Three Village Inn
Stony Brook
Located in the heart of the historic town and overlooking Stony Brook Harbor, the Estate at Three Village Inn is a unique backdrop for your wedding day. Make it a full wedding weekend, with your rehearsal dinner at their Mirabelle restaurant, stay overnight in their cozy rooms or suites, and then say your vows in the garden before enjoying your reception in their ballroom, able to fit up to 250 guests.
Mansion at Timber Point
Great River
The Mansion at Timber Point is nestled along the Great South Bay, offering views of Fire Island and the rolling greens of a golf course. Inside the historic mansion offers classic country décor with a modern twist for you and your up to 250 guests.
The Mansion at West Sayville
West Sayville
The Mansion at West Sayville offers classic splendor with rustic beach charm. It features views of the Great South Bay, Fire Island and the Maritime Museum. The grand ballroom features French doors to separate the dance floor from the dining room. A perfect setting for up to 220 guests.
Pavilion at Sunken Meadow
Kings Park
The Pavilion at Sunken Meadow is the premier location for the perfect beach wedding. It offers stretches of sand, gentle bay breezes and beautiful sunset views. It can accommodate up to 300 guests.
View
Oakdale
View offers a refined yet relaxing setting with beautiful waterfront views and award-winning food. Host your intimate wedding with up to 180 guests at the View for a customized menu and breathtaking landscapes.
East Wind Long Island
Wading River
East Wind features 26 acres on the Island’s North Shore giving brides plenty of opportunities for amazingly beautiful photos. Not only does it give you several options for your wedding – everything from an intimate garden affair to a stately ballroom – it also is home to a hotel, with several restaurants, shops and a full-service spa and salon. These amenities allow brides tons of options to get ready, a rehearsal dinner or just a day of relaxation before the big day!
The Barn at Old Bethpage Restoration
Old Bethpage
The Barn offers a rustic yet elegant venue for your wedding, with over 8,000-square-feet of indoor and outdoor event space. It fits 300 guests, and features high ceilings with exposed wooden beams. Couples can choose to have an on-site ceremony overlooking the gardens or inside the ballroom. The country fields and authentic farmhouse are sure to leave your guests impressed.
Giorgio’s Baiting Hollow
Baiting Hollow
Every wedding at Giorgio’s is personally overseen by the owners to make sure your perfect day goes smoothly. This venue is unique in its indoor/outdoor setting, with scenic views of a beautiful, rolling golf course. And who wouldn’t love a nine-station cocktail hour and a four-course entrée dinner. Giorgio’s fits up to 300 guests.
Atlantis Banquets & Events
Riverhead
When you hear Atlantis, you probably think “aquarium,” but why not get married there? From a small gathering of 20 guests to up to 650, you get to choose from up to nine different locations around the property to celebrate your big day. And don’t forget to inquire about taking photos with the animals!
Swan Club on the Harbor
Roslyn
Located on the harbor, Swan Club on the Harbor offers breathtaking views and picturesque backdrops. It is located on an estate that dates back to the 1600s and features a mansion constructed by the co-founder of Con Edison. Purchased in 2018 by restaurateur brothers they restored it to its Gold Coast perfection. It can hold up to 350 guests.
The Mansion at Woodside Club
Muttontown
This one-of-a-kind mansion property is sure to be the perfect venue to host the best day of your life. The Mansion at Woodside Club features indoor and outdoor options for your ceremony as well as an open-plan ballroom.
Pine Hollow Club
East Norwich
This private club offers a bit of old and new to make your wedding day perfect. It features historic architecture with modern finesse. Pine Hollow Club features multiple ballrooms and plenty of outdoor gardens to make your day unforgettable.
Bellport Country Club
Bellport
This one-wedding venue is located in the village of Bellport and offers rolling views of the championship golf course and Great South Bay. It features and indoor-outdoor cocktail hour, and a beautiful private garden for the perfect ceremony. Customize your dream wedding at Bellport Country Club.
Villa Lombardi’s
Holbrook
For more than four decades, the Lombardi family has set the standard in Long Island hospitality. Known for its delicious Neapolitan Italian Cuisine, the Lombardis bring a little bit of timeless tradition to your wedding day.
Bayview on the Water
Freeport
Located right on the water on the beautiful Nautical Mile, Bayview on the Water offers three levels of panoramic open bay views. The brand new venue can accommodate up to 300 guests for formal affairs, and up to 400 for cocktail receptions.
One10
Melville
This restaurant space is designed in a modern, chic style, with plenty of natural light and warm wooden flooring. In addition to hosting wedding celebrations, it also operates as an Italian steakhouse.
Rare650
Syosset
Rare, indeed. This modern restaurant offers a unique dining experience with several event spaces to choose from for your wedding. From the main dining area with a floor-to-ceiling wine room to the bright and airy conservatory, Rare650 is the perfect venue to customize your perfect wedding day.
The Halston
Melville
This new addition to the Anthony Scotto family has everything you need on your wedding day. It features exciting cuisine that you can pair with perfect wines and signature cocktails. This is the perfect venue for up to 200 guests. And it’s only one wedding at a time at The Halston.
Blackstone Steakhouse
Melville
Just like every couple, every wedding at Blackstone is refreshingly unique and special. Offering elegant, modern décor with quarried stone, rich natural wood and warmly glowing chandeliers and fireplaces, it sets the mood for an incredible and memorable wedding day.
The Bayview House at Captain Bill’s
Bay Shore
The Bayview House is nestled off the South Shore and offers stunning views of the Great South Bay. It features shimmering chandeliers, a second floor bridal suite with a balcony overlooking the grand ballroom and cathedral windows showcasing panoramic water views. From intimate affairs to grand galas, the Bayview House is ready to host your special day.
Soundview Caterers
Bayville
Soundview Caterers are ready to maintain their legacy of extraordinary service and culinary excellence on your wedding day. Nestled along the “Gold Coast” of Long Island’s North Shore, it features spectacular views of the Long Island Sound and neighboring coastline.
Riviera Waterfront Mansion
Massapequa
This venue sits right on the Great South Bay, so your guests can watch you say your vows or sip cocktails right along the water. From its stunning ballroom to its expansive cocktail hour space outside, The Riviera Waterfront Mansion is ready to plan your special day.
The Royalton on the Greens
Melville
This family owned venue sits on top of a hill at the heart of a breathtaking golf course with magical waterfalls, offering the perfect backdrop for wedding photos and beautiful views. Hidden by the gilded gates of a country club, you’ll feel like you have your own private oasis.
The Royalton Mansion
Roslyn Heights
This family owned venue with a Great Gatsby-era feel is tucked away in Roslyn Heights. Featuring 10 acres of wooded arbor and English gardens, The Royalton Mansion will transport your guests back in time to an era of luxury and opulence.
Water’s Edge
Centerport
With stunning waterfront views, Water’s Edge expertly-trained staff is ready to make your wedding unforgettable. This sophisticated Gatsby-style venue will have your guests in awe.
Port Jefferson Country Club
Port Jefferson
Located along the edge of the Long Island Sound, PJCC’s waterfront views can be enjoyed from the main ballroom, cocktail hour space and four – yes four – expansive decks for some amazing sunset photos. Their dedicated team is ready to create the wedding day of your dreams.
Tellers: An American Chophouse
Islip
If you’re looking for a venue with history, romance and culinary artistry, then Tellers: An American Chophouse is where you should look. Housed in a restored 1927 First National Bank, Tellers provides a breathtaking backdrop for your wedding day. And don’t forget to ask about their private space for intimate gatherings!
The Garden City Hotel
Garden City
Since 1874, The Garden City Hotel has been an icon of elegance on Long Island. It offers couples luxury, exceptional service and a world-class cuisine that will leave your wedding guests wowed. Their newly-renovated grand ballroom features soaring ceilings, floating chandeliers and upgraded lighting.
Smithtown Landing Caterers
Smithtown
This hidden gem is nestled on a pristine golf course that overlooks the Nissequogue River. It’s surrounded by lush forestry and scenic water views, creating the perfect backdrop for elegant photos with a touch of rustic romantic vibes.
Sand Castle
Franklin Square
If you want to be treated like the queen that you are, look no further than the Sand Castle – its uniqueness and sophistication will wow every guest. Their staff is pays meticulous attention to detail, and they’re committed to creating the literal fairytale wedding of your dreams.
Gatsby on the Ocean
Wantagh
Imagine saying ‘I do’ with the sound of waves in the background, and a slight breeze coming off the water. With Gatsby on the Ocean’s perfect location, you can have your entire wedding – ceremony, cocktail hour and reception – just steps away from the beach. And don’t even get us started on those perfect sunset photos!
Pearl Caterers
Port Jefferson
Pearl Catering at Danfords creates culinary masterpieces for your wedding day. The team is passionate about making sure your wedding is about you, and works to bring your vision to life.
Greenview at Lawrence Yacht and Country Club
Lawrence
From an intimate gathering to a full party with up to 500 guests, this venue is elegant, classy and modern. Its renovated ballroom features a performing stage and a spacious dance floor.
Wherever you choose to have your wedding, just know that you’ll be in great hands!
In Brides of Long Island’s Monthly “Mrs.” series, we profile some of our members’ unforgettable weddings. This month, we spoke with Sarah and Ali about the meaningful DIY projects and personal touches that helped them create a wedding day that felt completely their own.
(Photo courtesy of Park Ave Studio)
A quick meeting in 2012 planted a seed that didn’t fully bloom until Sarah and Ali were re‑introduced in 2019. From that moment on, their story unfolded into a wedding day that reflected not just their love, but the journey that brought them back to each other.
Finding Their Way Back to Each Other
Sarah and Ali first met briefly through mutual friends in 2012, then went their separate ways until a 2019 re‑introduction changed everything. “My roommate said her friends were coming over, and she walked in with Ali and it was over from there,” Sarah says. Two years later, on March 11, 2021, Sarah surprised Ali with a proposal on a pier surrounded by family and friends. A week later, Ali proposed in their backyard.
After celebrating with a party, the two enjoyed their engagement before officially diving into planning in late 2023.
Planning With Confidence (After a Nervous Start)
Once they booked Stonebridge Country Club, a BOLI Preferred Vendor, Sarah and Ali eased into planning with a mix of excitement and the nerves that come with being a same‑sex couple navigating the wedding industry. “We walked in holding our breath, but the second Diana greeted us, it felt safe and welcoming,” Sarah says. Ali added the property, the pricing and the people made every decision easier. “The moment we stepped inside, we just knew — it felt like our place.”
With the venue locked in, she immediately reached out to the makeup artist she’d been eyeing on Brides of Long Island – LisaMarie Makeup, a BOLI Preferred Vendor. Sarah says she booked her the same day because she loved her soft, natural style.
From there, the rest of the process unfolded smoothly as they relied mostly on the venue’s vendor package. They rounded out their team with Absolute Entertainment, a BOLI Preferred Vendor, a florist who matched their vision and Rev. Joe Iadanza, of Long Island Wedding Officiants, a BOLI Preferred Vendor, who had guests laughing and tearing up all night.
(Photo courtesy of Park Ave Studio)
Handmade Details That Made the Day Theirs
Sarah and Ali poured so much of themselves into their wedding, choosing a palette of pinks, mauves and sage green, and filling the space with personal touches they created by hand. They built a memorial display, customized a mirror and crafted favors by filling jars with honey and flower seeds. “We wanted something personal, not just something bought — something we actually put together ourselves,” Sarah says.
Their bouquets were made of sola wood flowers so they could keep them forever, and pearls and diamonds appeared throughout the décor as a nod to their birthstones. Ali loved that their DIY choices felt both meaningful and practical, adding, “We wanted things people would actually use.”
A Day Full of Calm, Joy and Genuine Connection
On the morning of the wedding, both Sarah and Ali felt the kind of nerves that only come with a day you’ve imagined for years. Sarah started out composed until the reality of it all hit her, but the moment they shared their first look, everything shifted. “The second I saw her, every bit of nervousness disappeared,” she says.
Ali had been shaking all morning, hands sweating through the anticipation, but the first look grounded her instantly and turned the day into pure fun. They loved getting a few quiet minutes alone in their fully-set reception room before guests arrived — dancing, taking photos, and soaking in the space they created together.
Throughout the day, a few standout vendors made the experience even more meaningful. Their MC, Terrence, became a true anchor — checking in constantly, personalizing every detail, and even taking videos for them since they didn’t hire a videographer. “He never felt like a vendor; he felt like a family friend,” Sarah says.
Their officiant, Rev. Joe, left a lasting impression too. Ali remembers how comfortable he made them feel, and guests still talk about how he moved seamlessly from heartfelt moments to laughter.
(Photo courtesy of Park Ave Studio)
Stonebridge’s team kept the day running flawlessly, from the quick room flip that surprised guests to the bar setup that kept lines nonexistent. Their DJ team kept the dance floor full, even pulling off a table dash so Sarah and Ali could get photos with every guest. By the end of the night, they both agreed that everything went smoothly, every detail felt cared for and it truly was the best day.
A Sweet Ending
Sarah and Ali leaned on the Brides of Long Island community throughout planning, using the search bar for everything from vendor research to tiny details they didn’t even know to ask about. “Anything I needed, I typed it in and there was always an answer,” Sarah says, and Ali loved that “no question ever went unanswered.”
Now that they’re on the other side, their biggest advice is simple: stay present. Ali encourages brides to slow down enough to enjoy the food and the moments you’ve been planning for, while Sarah adds, “Remember it’s your day — stay together, soak it in and don’t let yourselves get pulled in a million directions.”
As for the sweetest surprise of all, Stonebridge partners with Dortoni to gift couples a recreated version of their wedding cake for their first anniversary. Sarah and Ali loved the tradition, especially since they barely tasted their cake on the actual day. Returning for that anniversary treat felt like reliving a piece of their wedding, a small but meaningful reminder of a celebration that still feels like it happened yesterday.
(Photo courtesy of Park Ave Studio)
Vendors:
Venue: Stonebridge Country Club, a BOLI Preferred Vendor
Photographer: Park Ave. Studio, a BOLI Preferred Vendor
Officiant: Rev. Joe Iadanza, Long Island Wedding Officiants, a BOLI Preferred Vendor
DJ: Absolute Entertainment, a BOLI Preferred Vendor
Florist: Flowers by Brian
Hair: Sarah used Jenn Turk; Ali used Emily Gargiulo
Makeup: Sarah used LisaMarie Makeup, a BOLI Preferred Vendor; ; Ali used Emily Gargiulo
Dress: Sarah used Burton’s Bridals, a BOLI preferred vendor; Ali used Blossom Bride
Cake: Dortoni Bakery
Transportation: Mark of Elegance Limousine Service, a BOLI preferred vendor
Hotel: Hyatt Regency Long Island, a BOLI preferred vendor
(Photo courtesy of Park Ave Studio)
It’s not a party without your guests! But inviting them all to your wedding can be daunting. Avoid these common mistakes couples make when finalizing their guest list
It’s one of the more overwhelming parts of wedding planning: putting together a guest list. You may be inspired to invite everyone you’ve ever met, or you may want to keep things small, but chances are you’ll have at least a few questions when compiling all those names.
There are a few easy-to-make guest list snags that can befall any bride. Save yourself some time, hassle, and emotional upheaval by avoiding these 5 common mistakes couples make when finalizing their guest list.
Image courtesy of Ken Hild Photography
1. Inviting too many guests
Yes, we promise you will get some “no’s.” But if you’re inviting 200 and your venue’s capacity is 130 (and you can only really afford 120)…well, things may get stressful. Avoid including a large number of guests you’re not prepared to host.
2. Not setting limits with your parents
Your parents are excited and they want to celebrate your big day. Remember though, this is YOUR wedding. If your parents or in-laws have free reign with the guest list, you may end up with a wedding full of people that you don’t really know (or, at least, aren’t that close to). Give your parents a set number of invites to avoid a guest list full of strangers.
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3. Leaving off (appropriate) plus-ones
Your best friend’s…ahem…’friend with benefits’ that comes and goes like the wind? Okay sure, you can leave him off. But long-term partners and spouses should always be included on the invite list, so avoid asking your paired-up pals to come solo.
It’s also a good idea to include plus-ones for your guests who may not know anyone else in attendance. You’ve been to parties where everyone else knows each other except for you — it’s not always a fun experience.
4. Thinking you have to invite certain guests
If you’re only inviting your cousin because they invited you to their wedding…10 years ago…and you haven’t spoken to them since then…it’s not the worst etiquette in the world to leave them off the list (especially if you have other people you’d love to invite in their place).
5. Excluding some and inviting others
Family and friend group dynamics can be a tricky thing. If you regularly hang out in a group of friends but only invite one or two people from that group, it could be hurtful and cause some resentment.
Same with family — if you invite your cousins but not your aunt and uncle, your wedding could be a heated topic of conversation. If possible, try to keep families and close friend groups intact on your list.
From Disney to Harry Potter and everything in between, these bridal shower themes bring personality, nostalgia, and plenty of fun to your celebration.
Bridal showers have become so much more than a simple afternoon get‑together — today’s brides are leaning into creative themes that reflect their style, their story and the moments that make them smile. Whether you’re dreaming of something whimsical, elegant, nostalgic or totally unexpected, BOLI members have delivered some truly unforgettable ideas. Here are 11 of BOLI’s favorite bridal shower themes to inspire your own celebration.
Bubbly Brunch
A mimosa‑forward celebration with bright citrus colors, bubbly bars and brunch bites that keep the vibe light and festive. Perfect for brides who love a relaxed, social atmosphere.
Something Blue
A chic, monochromatic moment featuring soft blues, hydrangeas and delicate details that nod to the classic wedding tradition. It’s simple, elegant and always photogenic.
Butterfly Kisses
Soft pastels, floating butterflies and whimsical garden‑party touches make this theme feel dreamy and romantic. Ideal for brides who love ethereal, feminine styling.
Bridgerton Ball of the Season
Think Regency‑era elegance with lace, pearls, pastels and plenty of florals. This theme is perfect for brides who want a touch of royal romance.
Popped The Question
A pop‑music‑inspired shower with playlists, lyric‑themed signage and fun nods to your favorite artists. Think Taylor Swift or the Backstreet Boys (Millenium blue and white anyone?) It’s upbeat, modern and full of personality.
Happily Ever After
A Disney‑inspired celebration with subtle fairytale touches, soft sparkle and magical details that feel sweet without being over the top. Perfect for brides who grew up on princess stories.
Love Is In Bloom
A floral‑forward shower bursting with fresh blooms, garden party décor and soft romantic colors. It’s timeless, feminine and always a crowd‑pleaser.
Main Squeeze
Bright citrus décor, lemon‑themed treats and sunny yellow accents make this theme feel fresh and joyful. Great for spring and summer celebrations.
She Found Her Sweetheart
A dessert‑driven theme with candy bars, pastel palettes and bakery-style displays. It’s playful, charming and ideal for brides with a sweet tooth.
Perfect Match
Matchbox motifs, spark imagery and “lighting the way to love” details make this theme clever and visually fun. It’s a cute twist for brides who love a good pun.
Once Upon a Love Story
A literary‑themed shower with stacked‑book centerpieces, cozy library‑style décor and subtle nods to the bride’s favorite stories — from Harry Potter to classic romance novels. It’s perfect for brides who want a whimsical, book‑lover’s twist on the traditional shower.
Bridal showers are your moment to celebrate this chapter in a way that feels unmistakably you. Whether you lean toward something playful, sentimental or totally unexpected, choosing a theme that reflects your personality sets the tone for a celebration you’ll look back on with a full heart. No matter what you pick, surround yourself with the people who lift you up and make this season feel even sweeter.
You’ve said yes, now comes the hard part. Here’s how to find vendors for your wedding.
After all the buzz and the excitement from your engagement dies down, you’ll start getting down to the business of planning your wedding. Whether you’re going for a huge event with hundreds of people or something smaller and more intimate, chances are you’ll need to hire at least a few wedding pros to pull everything off.
But how do you go about finding those wedding pros? You may have a venue you love, and you may have stalked a few makeup artists on social media, but what about everyone else?
Don’t worry, beautiful bride — BOLI has your back! These are the best ways to find vendors for your wedding, no matter what kind of vibe you have in mind.
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Peruse Brides of Long Island’s Preferred Vendors
Brides of Long Island was started by founder Heather Cunningham as she planned her own big day. Since 2017, our mission has been to help every member of our community bring their dream wedding days to life. We’re staffed entirely by former brides who’ve all been on this journey before, and who all faced a lot of the same questions and struggles that you may be facing right now.
That’s why we compiled a list of our own Preferred Vendors. These are the pros that we’ve worked with before, that we know are passionate, knowledgeable, and reliable. We vet each and every vendor to be sure they’re up to our standards, and we do so by researching what YOU have to say about your experiences working with them.
Brides of Long Island has 26 different categories of vendors, from venues to wedding planners and everything in between. Any vendor you could possibly need can be found on our website! Once you choose a category, you can click on the profiles of every vendor to get an idea of their specialities, their background, and what they love about working with our brides. When you find one that you love, click on their contact information to set up a meeting or see more of their work. Yes, it’s THAT easy!
Join the brides-only BOLI Facebook Group
Do you have questions that no one can really answer? Are you obsessing over colors or themes while everyone is telling you to relax? Do you want to find friendship, camaraderie, and support from other brides planning their weddings on Long Island? Then you need to join BOLI’s brides-only Facebook group!
This is where all your questions, like “should I pick chiffon or satin for the bridesmaids dresses,” get answered. This is where you can vent about your future mother-in-law without hurting anyone’s feelings. And this is where brides can give their honest feedback about their vendor teams. Simply search the group for “makeup artist” or “DJ” and hundreds of reviews will come up! Since we don’t allow vendors inside the group, brides can be entirely open about their experiences.
Just search for “Brides of Long Island” on Facebook, answer the questions, and your application to join will be submitted. Approval can take a while, so be patient. And be sure to check your DM’s if our moderators need to contact you for more information.
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Ask friends who’ve tied the knot
There’s nothing better than a personal recommendation from a friend. If you remember dancing the night away at your sorority sister’s reception, bug her for her DJ info. If you noticed the flowers at your sister-in-law’s bridal shower, don’t be afraid to ask for her florist. Mine your friends and family members for information, especially if you’ve already seen their vendors’ work in action.
Search social media
Instagram, TikTok, and other social media platforms are great means for researching vendors. You can search using phrases like “Long Island wedding hair” or follow hashtags like #longislandwedding or #bridesoflongisland! Most reputable vendors have social media accounts showcasing their actual work, but keep in mind — AI allows people to manipulate or fully create content that never existed, so you’ll want to have a keen eye when looking at photos and video.
And if you aren’t already, give us a follow @thebridesoflongisland! We showcase local vendors all the time, and you’ll definitely catch a lot of their stunning work.
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Attend bridal expos and events
Wedding and bridal expos happen quite frequently on the Island. You may even be able to catch one at a venue you’ve been eyeing! Expos are a great opportunity to meet a lot of different vendors at once — photographers, bridal salons, DJs, hair stylists, you name it. You can see examples of their work, chat with them to see if your vibes match, and even ask for their availability.
Here’s a Brides of Long Island pro tip: before attending an expo, create a special email address just for wedding communication. Most of the vendors will ask for your contact info, and having a specific email just for your wedding planning can help you keep everything organized and in one place.
Use search engines
We’ll be honest — search engines aren’t our favorite way to find vendors, for a few reasons. Reviews can be faked, Google rankings can be manipulated, and anyone can buy an ad.
The plus side is that search engines are easily accessible and quick. So if you’re in a rush and just need some names fast, a search engine can pull up several options for you. But be sure to do your own vetting and research before signing a contract or making a deposit.