Your guests will be on the dance floor all night long with these DJs!
For some brides it’s the most important part of wedding planning – choosing the perfect DJ! From the ceremony and your walk down the aisle to your first dance as husband and wife and a rocking dance floor, you want everything to be perfect when it comes to music. And remember a DJ is so much more than music these days! Most offer a variety of extras to make your night memorable – including photo booths, zap photos, party favors for the dance floor, uplighting and so much more! The possibilities are endless when you choose the right DJ.
There are so many great Long Island DJs, you probably don’t know where to start. Well, Brides of Long Island is taking the work out of your search and has 27 of the best Long Island DJs that will be sure to meet all of your needs.
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Absolute Entertainment
With over 30 years experience, Absolute Entertainment is a full-service entertainment company. Sparkler towers, giant lettering, photo booths, and of course excellent DJs and MCs to create the perfect night music-wise with you! Absolute represents over 20 catering halls on Long Island, including all of the Lessings’ venues.
MORE: Read more about Absolute Entertainment
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High Voltage Entertainment
High Voltage Entertainment wants you to know they are more than just great music! They offer photographers, live musicians, event coordinators and dancers to start. Their event coordinators cater to your needs and create the day you want.
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Long Island Sound DJ Entertainment
If you want to make a personal statement, LI Sound is the DJ company for you. From their top-notch emcees and DJS, to their state-of-the-art accent lighting, your wedding guests are sure to be impressed and won’t leave the dance floor.
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L.I. Nights Entertainment
With over 20 years experience, Chad and the staff at L.I. Nights Entertainment will work to ensure a one-of-a-kind wedding. They create perfect, customized timelines for you to maximize the amount of partying on the dance floor.
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Ultimate Sound DJs
At Ultimate Sound DJs, the music never stops. Their DJs will keep the good vibes rolling from your first meeting to the very last dance at your wedding. Ultimate Sound DJs love being a part of a couple’s special day. They create magical moments, helping couples celebrate their love with family and friends.
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Tommy’s Tunes
For over 30 years, Tommy’s Tunes has raised the bar in DJ entertainment. Tommy’s Tunes offers an array of customized services to fit any budget and any party size.
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Genesis Events
If you want to make lifelong friends, look into Genesis Events. The owners want to get to know you, your likes, your dislikes, how you and your future spouse met, and what you were like as kids! This way they can throw you the best wedding ever.
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Variety Music
Variety Music knows that one of the most important aspects of your wedding is the music, which is why they will create a classy, fun and lively atmosphere for you and your wedding guests. They also offer bi-lingual MCs to cater to all of their clients.
Studio 27 DJs
‘Get a real job!’ is something the owner of Studio 27 DJs has often heard. But this is his real job and he loves it! At Studio 27, they are constantly dreaming up new ways to give you the most unique and amazing wedding day.
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Get Your Groove On DJ Entertainment
If you really want to get your groove on, then look no further than Get Your Groove On DJ Entertainment. Their staff is energetic and ready to make your wedding the party of the century! They also offer photo booths, Zap photos and much more!
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TLC Entertainment and Event Group
Sophisticated, exciting, and most importantly, customized for you. This is the wedding experience that TLC Entertainment and Event Group offers all its brides. Creating a fun, unique atmosphere is what they proudly offer, and they can’t wait to entertain your guests.
WiredUP NY
The staff at WiredUP NY strives for nothing but perfection. They create the perfect atmosphere for all types of wedding celebrations. Making your wedding a special day that you’ll never forget is something WiredUP strives for.
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Partytime Entertainment
It’s time to party with Partytime Entertainment. Being a part of your day is fulfilling for the Partytime DJs and emcees. They work hard to ensure your wedding leaves your guests saying ‘Wow, that was the best night ever.’
Fourth Generation DJ and Entertainment
With more than 30 years experience. Fourth Generation DJ and Entertainment make it their mission to make all of your wedding entertainment dreams come true. From a traditional affair to an over-the-top banger and everything in between, the DJs and emcees at Fourth Generation will be there every step of the way.
Top Tier Entertainment New York
Top Tier Entertainment is a full-service event production company. With everything from photographers to DJs, film making and live music, Top Tier will make your wedding a night you’ll never forget.
Events by Elite Entertainment
Events by Elite Entertainment offers bilingual DJs and emcees. They work side-by-side with you to make sure all of your music is perfect. And don’t forget to ask about a photo booth or uplighting!
Gotham Events NYC
This boutique production company is all about extreme professionalism, hands-on customer service, and the utmost attention to detail. Gotham Events NYC will leave no stone unturned when planning your special day.
Sensational Sounds DJ Entertainment
Sensational Sounds works to ensure that your wedding reception will be a celebration that you’ll remember with joy and happiness, laughter and special moments you shared with family members and friends.
Everlasting Productions
Everlasting Productions isn’t just your DJ – they will guide you to create an unforgettable experience for you and your guests. They know it’s not their show – it’s your wedding day and it’s all about you. They want your guests to be dancing, celebrating your love and making lasting memories. Founder AJ is ready to create the wedding event you’ve always dreamed of.
Dynamic Beats Entertainment
This close-knit family will make you one of their own as they plan your very special day with you. At Dynamic Beat Entertainment, they celebrate alongside you, your loved ones, and your cherished guests and work to ensure your special day shines with the very best in entertainment.
Ello Entertainment
Owner Joseph Mondello – also known as DJ Ello – began his career as a club DJ. Originally into house and dance music, Ello Entertainment caters to all genres for every wedding he DJs. DJing isn’t a job for Joseph, it’s his passion. Joseph brings upbeat energy in music and packed out as well as professionalism and a calm demeanor.
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Paradigm Sounds
Paradigm Sounds wants to transform your wedding into an unforgettable experience. Their musicians can cover a range of genres to make sure everyone is up on the dance floor. From R&B to Motown and contemporary hits, they can do it all. With years of experience and a passion for music, Paradigm Sounds is ready to elevate your wedding day.
Xtreme Entertainment
Xtreme Entertainment has staff from different backgrounds, all of whom are talented and ready to bring the energy on your wedding day. They work with couples on any budget to ensure the dance floor is filled. They can’t wait to meet with you and discuss music, add-ons like Zap shots, light shows and more!
Metro Sounds
What started out as a fascination with radio DJs turned into a passion and career for the owner for Metro Sounds. This small business prides itself on their attention to detail, ensuring spectacular entertainment on your wedding day. By connecting with their brides, they can create a memorable event.
Drive Up DJ’s
With Drive Up DJ’s, you get your own personal party planner to make sure your wedding day goes off without a hitch. From DJs to lighting and photo booths, they have everything you need to create the wedding party of your dreams. They will turn your wedding day dreams into memories that last a lifetime.
TCM DJ Events LLC
Tasteful, Classy and Memorable DJ Events (or ‘TCM’) says it all in the name. Their DJs cater to your music requests while keeping the dance floor packed all night long. With their music app, you can hear the songs you want while putting together your wedding timeline to make for a smooth and unforgettable day.
Come Alive Music and Entertainment
What started as a husband and wife duo turned into a full DJ-band hybrid that gives brides and grooms their dream wedding entertainment. They work with couples to ensure there is a mix of everything for everyone on their wedding day. They can’t wait to see your wedding come alive!
So, what are you waiting for? Don’t walk but dance to book one of these fantastic Long Island DJs for your wedding day.
Treat your guests to a hotel treat! Include these 7 items in your wedding welcome bag.
You didn’t get that hotel block for nothing! Several guests on your list are traveling in for your big day, and you couldn’t be happier. While most hotels are stocked with the essentials, putting together a wedding “welcome bag” for your guests is never a bad idea.
So, what exactly goes into a welcome bag? The contents are totally up to you, and we’ve seen some brides of Long Island go above and beyond! But if you’re feeling a bit stumped, here are the top 7 items to include in your wedding welcome bag
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1. An itinerary
Give your guests an idea of schedule and other important information. Let them know about shuttle departures, ceremony start times, Uber codes, and after-party addresses.
2. Drinks and snacks
Sure, most hotels will have restaurants (or at least vending machines). But including a few bites and sips for your guests is super thoughtful! Even better if they fit the theme of your wedding, or offer your out-of-towners some local treats and flavors.
3. Over-the-counter meds
Will the hotel gift shop carry ibuprofen? Probably. But will your guests feel like schlepping to the lobby after sampling your signature cocktail…all night long? Probably not. Throwing a few pain killers in your wedding welcome bag could be a lifesaver!
4. Portable stain removers
You know your venue’s chicken parm is out of this world, but it’ll be bad news if that sauce ends up in someone’s lap! Wet naps, detergent pens, and other stain removers are always a great idea.
5. Fun, personalized items
Matchbooks with your names and wedding date, candles with your initials, or even beer coozies with your hashtag are all festive swag options for your wedding welcome bag.
6. First Aid items
We never want to think about our guests getting injured, but it can happen. Bandages, alcohol pads, and anti-bacterial ointment can be very useful.
7. A notepad and paper
Sure, everyone uses their phones to take notes. But there’s something classic about a small notepad and pen! This is another item you can personalize with your wedding details.
Looking to personalize your wedding invitations? BOLI has the five of the best invitation & station vendors for you!
When it comes to your wedding invitations, you want to make an impression. This is something that will live on your family or friend’s refrigerator or desk for weeks leading up to the big day. But where do you begin? Why not look into using one of the seven best Long Island invitation and stationery vendors? They will help you customize and design the perfect wedding invitation that will wow your guests!
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Red Letter Day Invitations & Design
If out of the box is where your mind is headed, then schedule a free personalized design session with Red Letter Day Invitations & Design. They will come to you and make creating your dream wedding invitation and fun experience, adding personal touches to impress your guests.
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The Stationery Bar
Lindenhurst
Romantic, timeless and sparkly – just wait until you meet Joy at The Stationary Bar! Work with her directly to create a custom package of wedding invitations that share your love story. Joy makes sure your invites represent you and your style. And don’t forget to ask her to customize your day of stationary, seating charts and wedding day signage!
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Inklinations
Great Neck
This husband and wife team has been running Inklinations for over 34 years. After becoming a professional calligrapher, it seemed only natural for Annie Kantor to open a retail invitation shop with her husband Earle. They are ready to create your perfect wedding invitations.
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Dolce Press
Bohemia
With over 20 years experience in designing invitations, Alexandria at Dolce Press can’t wait to meet you and bring your wedding invitation vision to life! She will obsess over every little detail of your invitations or stationary to make sure everything is perfect for your big day.
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Fairy Tale Affairs
Massapequa
At Fairy Tale Affairs, your vision for invitations – and so much more – is brought to life. Mother-daughter duo Tracey and Dezi are the masterminds that bring everything together.
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Jessica Leigh Paperie
Bay Shore
With 18 years experience in creative services and design, Jessica Leigh Paperie is a boutique invitation design studio. Together with JLP, you can create high-end wedding and event invitations as well as any other design needs for your big day (think menus and escort cards).
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Violet Invitations
Ronkonkoma
Violet Invitations is passionate and dedicated to creating exceptional designs for all of your wedding paper needs. Melanie’s experience in design and marketing gives her a keen eye and attention for detail to hand-design your dream wedding invitations.
Planning a wedding can be stressful. These invitation and stationary vendors on Long Island work hard to make creating your wedding suites fun, creative and stress-free!
Cash is king, but it’s not without its pitfalls. Here’s how to avoid common cash wedding gift mistakes.
It may be different in other parts of the country, but on Long Island, weddings mean cash gifts. Whether it’s in paper dollars or paper checks, many newlyweds leave their venues with full card boxes and soon-to-be fuller bank accounts.
Getting loads of cash is exciting, but there are a few errors that many couples can make when it comes to their congratulatory windfall. Before heading to the bank, know these common cash wedding gift mistakes and how to avoid them.
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1. Not having a plan for the money
Depending on your guest list, you and your fiancé can expect to get a chunk of change for your wedding. Before you get to the big day, decide what you want to do with the money you receive. You may want to open a joint savings account and leave it there while you discuss things further. Or, you may decide you want to invest it and meet with a financial advisor. You might also want to put it towards buying a home or another major purchase. Whatever you choose, make a plan for the money before you get it. That way, you’ll be less likely to make the second cash wedding gift mistake on our list…
2. Splurging on impulse buys or everyday purchases
Your wedding gifts may amount to the largest amount of cash you’ve ever been given. We know you have a pair of Louboutins in sight, but resist the urge to splurge! Your best bet is to talk with your fiancé and funnel the money towards something for your future — like a home, a sound financial investment, or even as an extended honeymoon budget.
You’ll also want to avoid spending the money on things like groceries or gas. We know that money could fuel your car for years, but a smarter decision would be to invest the money or dedicate it to a once-in-a-lifetime experience.
3. Neglecting to note which guests gave cash gifts
Remember ripping open a birthday card and making a beeline for the cash inside? Yeah, we all fell into that trap when we were younger. But doing it with your cash wedding gifts could mean you easily forget who gave you what. And let’s be real — you’d like to write a really nice thank you note to the uncle that gave you $500. Keep a ledger as you open your cards, and make a note of which guests gave you cash and checks. That will make things so much easier when it’s time to write your thank you notes.
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4. Waiting too long to cash checks
We know you’re going to be exhausted after the big day, and you’ll want to rest and recoup before getting back to the real world. It may be tempting to stuff checks in your purse to cash later, but remember — most checks are only good for 6 months after the date listed, and some are valid for only 90 days. Banks aren’t required to honor them after that point.
It’s also worth mentioning that unless your guests balance their accounts religiously, they may forget that they have a large outstanding check in your name. Waiting too long to cash their check could cause them to overdraft, or eat into money they need for mortgages, rent, or other expenses.
5. Using cash gifts to pay off wedding expenses
It’s so tempting to spring for a live painter or DJ uplighting that’s way out of your budget, with the thought that money you get for gifts will make up the difference. But here’s the thing — you never know just how much money you’ll be getting, and if it will be enough to cover expenses that brought you into the red.
Instead of spending theoretical gift money, set a strict wedding budget and throw a party that’s within your means. We promise you’ll have an incredible day — even if you have to skip the uplighting.
In Brides of Long Island’s Monthly “Mrs.” series, we profile some of our members’ unforgettable weddings. This month, Chelsey talks about why she chose a wedding band over a DJ and the perfect fall weather on her wedding day.
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Like most brides, Chelsey was worried about the weather for her Oct. 5, 2024 wedding. But when the day arrived, it was 74 degrees and sunny the entire day! The great weather meant she and her husband Mark got to have their ceremony outdoors – which is what they wanted all along.
A Sorority Setup
Chelsey and Mark met at Syracuse University in February 2015, when a friend set them up for a sorority social. Like most college couples, they hung out for a while before getting serious. In fact, Chelsey says she met his entire family at a wedding before they actually made things official.
In 2022, during their annual apple picking trip, Mark popped the question. “We had been going apple picking near Syracuse every year since we started dating,” says Chelsey. “We usually go with his family, so they were all there when he proposed.” Mark also invited Chelsey’s family for an engagement dinner.
The Perfect Indoor/Outdoor Venue
As Chelsey and Mark started looking for venues that October, they knew they needed to find one that had a great outdoor space for their ceremony but also a suitable indoor backup in case of inclement weather. “We looked at a lot of venues that just turned their ballroom into a ceremony space,” explains Chelsey. “But we wanted a venue that had a dedicated space for a ceremony.” And they found the perfect space at Pine Hollow Club, a BOLI Preferred Venue. “Even though we didn’t use it, the indoor ceremony space at Pine Hollow is beautiful and exactly what we were looking for,” says Chelsey. “It has really high ceilings and windows, which make you feel like you’re outside.”
Another reason they loved Pine Hollow? They could arrive at the venue any time they wanted. “We were able to get there at 6:30 a.m. to start getting ready,” says Chelsey. This meant they could have their first look and all of their photos done ahead of their ceremony. “Pine Hollow was so flexible and accommodating,” she says. “It was so easy to work with them to create the timeline that we wanted.”
(Photo courtesy of JAYLim Studio)
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All Night Long
Aside from the venue, Chelsey says the band and the photographer were their most important vendors to choose. “We LOVE watching live music,” says Chelsey. “We always knew that we wanted a band at our wedding.” They booked with Crossing Midnight Entertainment, a BOLI Preferred Vendor, and they were not disappointed. “The band covered pretty much every song and genre of music we asked for,” says Chelsey. “Everyone was raving about them. People were literally getting kicked off the dance floor to eat dinner. They were that good.”
Crossing Midnight Entertainment wasn’t the only vendor that went above and beyond all night for Chelsey and Mark. “Honestly, we loved all of our vendors,” says Chelsey. “From the amazing food and the bridal attendant who didn’t leave my side at the Pine Hollow Club to our photographer Hannah from JayLim, who matched my creative vision, everyone was amazing.”
(Photo courtesy of JAYLim Studio)
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Because of the amazing weather, they got to have the outdoor ceremony they had hoped for. They worked with Jacqueline Brehm, from LI Officiant, a BOLI Preferred Vendor. “From our first call before we booked her to the day of the wedding, Jacqueline was amazing to work with,” says Chelsey. Jacqueline drafted a script that really captured Chelsey and Mark’s relationship, and even helped the pair work on their wedding vows. “It was the perfect balance of humor and emotion that we were looking for,” says Chelsey. “Our ceremony was everything we dreamed of because of Jacqueline.”
A Moment of Calm
You may have heard the saying “calm before the storm.” Chelsey says as she was getting ready, she looked out the window of Pine Hollow and had a true moment of calm – which ended up lasting the rest of the day. “We had such a beautiful day,” says Chelsey. “As I looked out the window that morning, I felt a really nice moment of peace. I honestly couldn’t believe it.” And the rest of the day went smoothly because she says she trusted her vendors. “I put a lot of faith into my vendors,” says Chelsey. “We shared our vision with them, and everything turned out exactly how we wanted it to.”
(Photo courtesy of JAYLim Studio)
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Now that she is settling into married life with Mark, Chelsey has some words of advice for future brides. “As you start your planning, take one vendor at a time,” she says. “When I started planning, I was so excited I emailed everyone. And it was overwhelming when everyone started responding at the same time.” She suggests narrowing down your vision, and tackling one vendor at a time to find the perfect one for you and your future spouse. She adds, “Trust your vendors, and just enjoy yourself on your wedding day.”
(Photo courtesy of JAYLim Studio)
Vendors:
Venue: Pine Hollow Club, a BOLI Preferred Vendor
Photographer/Videographer: JayLim (Hannah)
Band: Crossing Midnight Entertainment, a BOLI Preferred Vendor
Florist: Andrew Pascoe Flowers
Hair: AP Hair Designs, a BOLI Preferred Vendor
Makeup: Makeup by Marisa
Officiant: Jacqueline Brehm, from LI Officiant, a BOLI Preferred Vendor
Dress: Bridal Salon of Huntington Village, a BOLI Preferred Vendor
Cake: Buttercooky Bakery
Tuxedos: Men’s Wearhouse
Transportation: Sir Oliver, a BOLI Preferred Vendor
Invitations: Maple and Ember
After Party: The Coop Nashville Kitchen and Bar
(Photo courtesy of JAYLim Studio)
The newly renovated Sea Star Ballroom and Riverfront Room offer one-of-a-kind experiences for your big day.
Bride and groom near one of the habitats at Atlantis Banquets & Events. (Photo by Marco Photography & Video)
New and exciting things are happening at Atlantis Banquet & Events, a BOLI Preferred Venue, as it celebrates its 25th anniversary. From a completely renovated Sea Star Ballroom to the updated signature package menu, Brides of Long Island will not be disappointed on their wedding day.
Ballroom Water Views
The Sea Star Ballroom offers a blend of elegance, modern amenities, and a stunning waterfront setting. It is located along the Peconic River, which provides an unforgettable backdrop for your special day. And now, it’s newly renovated with a fresh new look. “We’ve updated our lighting, carpets and dance floor,” said Atlantis Banquets & Events Director of Sales Tony Cotignola. “It was time to do a little refresh, and it’s been completely modernized.”
What didn’t change were the expansive windows offering spectacular views of the water. They are better than ever no matter the time of day. Your daytime wedding will feature sunlit waterscapes, and evening brides will be treated to a glowing sunset reflecting off the river. The Sea Star Ballroom provides a captivating setting for any size wedding party – from 50 guests to 340!
Up Close Water Views in the Riverfront Room
Another renovation that you’re going to love is the Riverfront Room, which is perfect for cocktail hour, your ceremony or even a bridal shower or engagement party. “We’ve added some chandeliers and beach murals to make the space more modern,” said Cotignola.
The Riverfront Room overlooks the Peconic River and provides style and flexibility with beautiful views. “Our guests love the Riverfront Room because it offers an indoor option for those that might not want to be outside the entire time during a cocktail hour,” said Atlantis Banquets & Events Director of Food & Beverage Daniel Lanieri.
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Revamped Mouth-Watering Menu
No update would be complete without a brand new menu. “We created a whole new wedding package that we know our brides will love,” said Lanieri, who worked with their executive chef to ensure a cuisine full of seasonal flavors and the freshest sustainable ingredients. And the best part is the staff at Atlantis Banquets & Events works with each couple to put together a menu that is sure to leave guests raving. Whether you need vegetarian, gluten-free or kosher options, the team will cater to your every request.
From passed hors d’oeuvres and the carving station to specialty stations like sliders, tacos and flatbread pizza, your guests will definitely have a lot to choose from during the cocktail hour. “We are now offering a duet plate as the first course instead of a salad, which we’re excited about,” said Lanieri. Make sure you leave room for dessert! You can customize the wedding cake of your dreams, and then choose delicious enhancements such as dessert shooters or mini gelato bars.
Couple inside the Butterfly Experience at Atlantis Banquets & Events. (Photo by Marco Photography & Video)
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25 Years of Exceptional Service
No matter how many renovations Atlantis Banquet & Events does, they will still offer the same exceptional services and unique experiences that they have for the past 25 years. With several spaces for your cocktail hour and reception to three different hotel options, you and your guests will be treated like royalty on your wedding day or weekend.
In addition to the Sea Star Ballroom, you can host your cocktail hour or reception right in the aquarium where you’ll celebrate amid vibrant aquatic displays, including the Lost City of Atlantis Shark Habitat. For those staying the weekend, you can book a room block at the Hyatt Place, which is next to Atlantis Banquets & Events, or for something more modern you can reserve rooms right across the street at the Preston House & Hotel and the Howell House. Preston’s is an upscale boutique hotel. And you can rent the entire Howell House, which can accommodate up to 12 guests, for a more exclusive experience. There’s even a fireplace to keep you warm on cold winter nights!
Couple on the bridge at Atlantis Banquets & Events (Photo by EXO Photography)
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Let’s not forget even more unique experiences that can create an unforgettable wedding day with endless photo opportunities. “Our indoor butterfly garden offers amazing photos with tropical flowers, plants and, of course, butterflies,” said Director of Marketing at Atlantis Banquets & Events Darlene Puntillo. “You won’t find that anywhere else.” Some other unique spots around Atlantis Banquets & Events are the coral reef, the shark tunnel and the waterfall up on the bridge. Any of the fish habitats located throughout the aquarium are also the perfect backdrop for your wedding photos. And you can get friendly with some sea lions or even get married in a shark tank if you’re feeling adventurous on your wedding day.
This article is sponsored by Westbury Manor, a Brides of Long Island Preferred Venue!
Can you really take back a wedding invitation once it’s been given? Here are the times when it’s appropriate, and how to handle the situation.
It’s likely that your guest list was one of the first major decisions of your wedding planning process. Deciding who to include in one of the biggest days of your life takes time, and you’ll want to invite as many family members, friends, and loved ones as you can.
But what happens if you’ve invited someone and…well…something happens? And what happens when whatever that “something” was has you reconsidering their place on your guest list? Is it ever appropriate to take back a wedding invitation?
Save the dates vs. Formal invitations
While save the dates aren’t the same as a formal wedding invitation, you should still only send save the dates to those you’re definitely inviting to the wedding. You’re quite literally asking your guest to save the date of your wedding and not schedule any conflicting events. This can be a considerable ask, especially if your wedding is taking place during peak vacation season or around the holidays.
What if you’ve changed your mind about a certain guest, but have already sent them a save the date? Is just NOT sending them a formal invite an option? In certain circumstances yes, but with a few caveats. More on that below.
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When to take back a wedding invitation
If you’ve already sent a formal invitation, consider that invite pretty much set in stone. Rescinding a wedding invitation should always be considered an absolute last resort, and you should always make that decision after a lot of thought and reflection.
Here are the situations that may warrant taking back an invite:
- A divorce or break up. If one of your guests announces an unexpected split from their romantic partner, you may want to consider adjusting your invite list accordingly. This can be entirely situational, though — if your guest and their ex are still on good terms (and you’re still on good terms), you may want to keep their invite in tact. If there was a lot of drama and hurt feelings in the separation, you may decide to disinvite the former romantic partner.
- A major fight or falling out. Relationships aren’t perfect. We can all say things we don’t mean, or get into arguments that seem to have no resolution. If you’ve had a major blow out with one of your guests — the kind that threatens your relationship altogether — let some time pass before making any decisions. After a few days, collect your thoughts and talk to your fiancé. Disinviting a guest is a major step that makes a major statement, and the two of you should be on the same page.
- Recent instances of inappropriate behavior. That one friend almost ruined your bachelorette party, and your terrified they’ll do the same at your wedding. The first step is ALWAYS communication, and explaining why their behavior has you worried. They could be going through a rough time and need some help that you can provide. If that’s not the case, and having a heart-to-heart didn’t seem to make matters any better, you may want to consider taking back their invite.
- A change in your wedding plans. You might have scored the venue, sent out the invite list, and then suddenly realized…you want a destination wedding instead. Circumstances change, and your guest list may have to as well.
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How to take back a wedding invitation
Taking back a wedding invitation doesn’t happen that often, so there isn’t a standard way to proceed. Overall, remember to remain respectful and keep heightened emotions out of the conversation.
- Be direct. Once you’ve made your decision, don’t wait to tell them or assume they’ll figure it out on their own. Remember — attending a wedding costs money for most people, and you’ll want to let them know before they’ve booked any non-refundable travel or hotel accommodations.
- Decide how best to break the news. Some situations may call for a face-to-face conversation. Some interactions will feel more appropriate via email or text. You may want to take the lead with certain guests, or your fiancé may be a more appropriate choice to navigate the discussion. Think about all these variables first.
- Give a reason why. If your plans have changed and your guest list needs to be altered as a result, offer a full but succinct reason to your disinvited guests. Many print companies like Minted or Zazzle offer pre-written “change of plans” cards that can be sent to those who’ve been previously invited. If the reason is more complicated than that, you should still offer an explanation. Try writing things out first, before you initiate a conversation.
- If you’ve sent a save the date but not an invite, you can hold off on mailing that thick envelope, but — again — you should still offer an explanation. Don’t just NOT send them an invite without a more detailed reasoning, because they may show up on the big day after all.
No matter the circumstances, it’s important to navigate changes in your guest list with thought, care, and empathy.
BOLI Preferred Vendor Don’t Toss the Bouquet takes your wedding day florals and donates them nursing homes, hospices, and other local organizations.
Photo courtesy of Don’t Toss the Bouquet
You spend countless hours (and countless dollars) deciding on your wedding day florals. Your bouquets, boutonnieres, centerpieces and accents bring color and beauty to your day, and enhance every part of your celebration.
But when the wedding day has come and gone, many brides of Long Island wonder what to do with all those leftover buds and blooms. Some choose to preserve a few petals, but what about the rest? Should you make peace with the fact that your gorgeous flowers will eventually end up in the garbage?
You don’t have to, thanks to BOLI Preferred Vendor Don’t Toss the Bouquet. Instead of throwing your flowers away, owner Christa Morris brings your flowers to those who need a little cheering up in our community.
Bringing Joy to Others
Christa was inspired to start a donation service after many brides offered their centerpieces and bouquets. “Many couples were rushing off to their honeymoons right after their weddings, and while I couldn’t accommodate such large quantities at the time, it always felt like such a shame to see all those beautiful flowers go to waste,” she said.
After a bit a brainstorming, she decided to start a donation service — with immediate positive results. “Our first donation came from Erin at Stonebridge Country Club [a BOLI Preferred Venue]. We repurposed her flowers and delivered them to multiple locations, creating joy not only for the people receiving the flowers but also for the bride herself.”
How flower donation works
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Impacting the community — one stem at a time
An added benefit for the happy couple
As of 2025, you can now claim your donated flowers as a tax deduction! “The process is pretty simple since we also run a nonprofit 501c3,” Christa said. “After the wedding, brides receive a donation receipt that includes our EIN number. They can provide this receipt to their accountant to claim a tax deduction for donating to a charitable organization. It’s an easy way to give back while also receiving a financial benefit.”
Beautiful moments, when they’re needed most
A well-deserved second life
Christa recognizes the immense talents of local florists, which makes the donations even more impactful. “I see firsthand how much effort florists put into their creations—the artistry, the time, and the care that goes into every arrangement,” she described. “The fact that these designs often only last for five hours before ending up in a dumpster is heartbreaking. That’s another reason why donating flowers is so meaningful. Seeing them get a second life, bringing comfort and joy to others, is not just a beautiful gesture—it’s also a true testament to the talent and dedication of the floral community.”
With so much on your plate, let Personal Escape Travel handle all the details of your destination wedding or honeymoon.
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Whether you’re looking to plan a destination wedding, your dream honeymoon or maybe a trip to celebrate your anniversary, Susan Blume, CTC and her team at Personal Escape Travel, a BOLI Preferred Vendor, is ready to make all of your wedding and travel dreams come true. With over 35 years experience in the travel industry, Blume is certified travel counselor with Sandals and Beaches Resorts, and she can’t wait to plan your next adventure.
Travel Passion
Blume says she developed a passion for travel while working part-time for a travel agency owned by her father’s friend. That passion developed further when her husband was a US Army ranger stationed in Germany. Having been in the travel industry for a few years, Blume was hired by the military in Germany. “I worked in the recreation, morale and welfare department,” says Blume. “I would plan day trips and tours for the military personnel and their families. We would travel to Prague and other parts of Germany, and take pottery or glass blowing tours.” Blume says it was a lot of work, but she loved not only being able to be a travel agent, but also traveling overseas.
When they moved back to the US for her husband’s next tour of duty, Blume got culinary training and took on the role of assistant manager at the Officers’ Club. “I would oversee daily operations, as well as events for over 500 guests,” she says. “I would plan the military balls. It was an interesting time.”
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Back to Her Roots
While Blume worked for the military, she never lost sight of her roots and ran a travel agency as a side business. When her husband got out of the military, they moved back to New York and she established Personal Escape Travel in 1998. “I wanted to combine my travel agent background with my culinary background, that’s why I specialize in destination weddings and honeymoons.” Blume says her experience in the military has helped her to understand how to coordinate a lot of moving pieces and make everyone happy – something she focuses on while planning destination weddings. “I love talking to new people, and there’s no shortage of things in travel – from where to go and what you want to experience.”
From Dream to Reality
If you’re looking to plan a destination wedding and you’re not sure where to start, Blume says she can help you from the minute you contact her to the minute you come back from your honeymoon. Since she is Sandals certified, she knows exactly which resorts would be perfect for everyone, and which resorts can accommodate children or even special needs guests. Blume takes her time learning about what you like and what you don’t like. She’ll also take the time to learn not just about you but about your guests. “I need to figure out which resort will best fit not just the wants of the couple but the needs of the entire wedding,” says Blume. “For example, if grandma is in a wheelchair, I can recommend which resorts will be easier for her to get around.”
Once she learns all of the details for the wedding, she’ll make suggestions on which resort would be best for her couples. She’ll then connect with the resorts’ wedding coordinators to find out availability and pricing. “What I love most is, I’m not just planning a wedding for my couples,” she says. “I’m helping to plan the whole experience – from a welcome party or rehearsal dinner to the reception and next day brunch.” But there’s more! Blume will also coordinate rooms for all of your guests, keep track of your contracts, and “I’ll even jump in and help with invitations and favors.” She adds that she not only works with resorts but also local bridal vendors to coordinate things like tuxedo rentals.
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The Perfect Paradise
The best part about having Blume help plan your dream wedding or honeymoon? Her recommendations are based on personal experience. She has traveled to many of the Sandals resorts and can confidently say that you’ll be getting five-star service. If you’ll be having children or teenagers at your wedding, she knows that Beaches Turks and Caicos can make guests of all ages entertained. “It’s also a short flight and offers 21 restaurants on site as well as a water park,” she says. If you’re having an adults-only wedding, she recommends a newer resort on Saint Vincent or Curacao. “Both islands are beautiful and the resorts are filled with white sand beaches and plenty of activities,” she says.
When it comes to a honeymoon, Blume says she’ll also find out what’s important for the couple. “Do they want more activities and adventure? Or do they just want to relax?” she says. All of the resorts offer snorkeling and water sports. However, she says if scuba diving is your thing, then Beaches Turks and Caicos or Saint Lucia are great. Saint Lucia has three Sandals properties, and offers exchange privileges for guests, which means they can visit any of the resorts and take advantage of all of the restaurants and amenities. “Saint Lucia is one of my favorite islands!” she says. “Not only are the Sandals resorts beautiful, but the island itself offers so much adventure – from volcano tours to mud baths and hot springs, it’s perfect for everyone.”
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Plan Ahead and Relax
Whether you’re planning your destination wedding or honeymoon, Blume says it’s best to start planning sooner rather than later. “Just like wedding venues on Long Island, destination wedding resorts book up quickly,” she says. “In fact, I have couples that are booked all the way into 2027.” For honeymooners, she reminds couples that the more popular rooms – like the over-the-water bungalows or private rondovals – sell out up to a year in advance.
The biggest piece of advice Blume has for her couples, “Trust me! Once you book with me, let me do the rest. Let me worry about your guests. Let me worry about those small details. I take on all of the stress so you don’t have to. Everything will be perfect.”
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In Brides of Long Island’s “Am I a Bridezilla?” the BOLI team weighs in on an anonymous submission asking that dreaded question. What do you think?
Dear BOLI,
I’m in my mid thirties and getting married for the second time. My first wedding when I was in my early twenties. We got divorced after about 3 years.
I had a bridal shower and bachelorette party for my first wedding, but because my friends and I were in college (aka young and broke), it wasn’t anything big. Now that we’re all older and financially secure, I wanted to do something more substantial for both. I was thinking a brunch at a nice restaurant for the shower, and trip to Nashville for the bachelorette.
When I proposed this to my maid-of-honor, she scoffed. She said because I’d gotten married before and had those experiences already, doing it again would be too much to ask. When I kept reminding her that my shower and bachelorette were so small the first time, she called me a bridezilla.
Am I a bridezilla for wanting a bridal shower and bachelorette party again, even though I already had one for my first marriage?
Signed,
Round two
Dear Round two,
No, you’re not a bridezilla for wanting a bridal shower and bachelorette party — even if you’ve already had them both.
According to your timeline, it looks like there’s been a good ten years or so between your first wedding and this one. If you had gotten married, divorced, and re-engaged in a span of one or two years, asking for another set of big parties might be overkill. A decade is plenty of breathing room between these events.
Some may argue that bridal showers and bachelorette parties are only for first-time brides, but at the end of the day it’s YOUR wedding. You get to celebrate it however you want. And unless your bridal party is made up of the exact same people as your first wedding, these events won’t be a “repeat” for everyone.
I will challenge you on a few ideas, though. You mentioned that your friends are now older and “financially secure,” but you never know someone’s financial state unless you’re looking at their bank accounts. Your maid-of-honor might have had that reaction because she’d struggle to pay for a “more substantial” bridal shower and bachelorette.
I’ll also throw out this possibility: if she was your maid-of-honor for your first wedding, she may have pulled out all the stops to throw a bridal party and bachelorette for you — even if it wasn’t what you’d consider “big.” She might be offended that you now considered those events to be “so small.”
It’s worth it to sit down with your entire bridal party and discuss your expectations, then you can determine whether a nice brunch and out-of-state trip is going to be realistic for everyone. If it’s not, try to brainstorm different options. “More substantial” doesn’t have to mean “more expensive.” You can explore budget-friendly restaurants for a bridal shower brunch, or even a potluck at someone’s house. For your bachelorette, there are plenty of fun road trip destinations for a weekend closer to home.
The thing that will make these events more memorable is not the location or the cost, it’s the quality time you spend with your best friends.
Wondering if YOU’RE a bridezilla? Email your anonymous questions to jennifer@bridesofli.com